The last time you needed to make a decision you had hesitations, didn’t you? You asked yourself, “Is this the right choice? Should I take this path or the other?” Sometimes even for the simplest decision of every day life, you waste much necessary time and energy on having to make decision by simply hesitating.
Many individuals are so hesitant, that this hesitation becomes a complex dilemma, the simple choice of daily life such as, “Which shirt or blouse should I buy,” “Should I order fish or chicken?,” “Should I call or not call this person?”
Although such decisions may seem insignificant, they become a serious problem for these individuals. Volatility become a part of one’s individuality and constantly brings tension to the every day life.
This person cannot relax because he or she is constantly tormented by responsibility for making an “important” choice and the fear of choosing the wrong one.
The fear of mistakes, the fear of failure, the fear that something can be missed is rooted in hesitation. Lack of determination is associated with a constant sense of insecurity and uncertainty.
It happens while others have already accomplished many tasks and are already returning to do more, the hesitant person still wonders whether to go and do something or to stand still.
Moreover, even when the decision is made, this individual is still not 100% sure whether this was the right one. Even then the doubts continue, “Did I make a mistake?,” “Maybe, I could still take the other option?,” “Why didn’t I make the other decision?,” “What a fool I am.”
You often wonder for a long time what option to choose and what will be right, letting life keep running out, missing thousands of opportunities and trampling in one place.
And you just need to choose something, decide where to go and begin to move forward.
Often in life, you need to make a quick decision that cannot be delayed. In such situations, you are afraid you will make a mistake, you must act urgently; you have no time to consider all possible options. This makes you have a mental block and even make you give up on making a decision.
And you don’t realize that you can only be wrong if you do not make any decision.
You would ask, “How do I learn to make quick decisions, then?”
Realize that there are no right or wrong decisions; there are different solutions. You need to choose something and proceed. Much worse is when you decide nothing and the fear of failure makes you quit.
Remember, it’s better to try and make mistakes than not trying at all. From a “mistake,” you can learn more than if you were in a “safe” place. And when a person tries to do something, this strengthens the belief of one’s own capabilities that whatever happens, one will be able to learn, grow and move forward. This is already a great success to the betterment of one’s self.
Usually a decision taken with the first five minutes is most correct. Any further reflection or analysis leads to trouble, roundness, and agony.
Just sit for a few minutes and think about what you’d like to do. Trust your feelings. Don’t overanalyze things.
After all, no one knows what might happen in the future and what circumstance will be present. Every time a decision is present, there will be pros and cons, in every situation.
Remember that you lose only when you hesitate and you make no decision.
Don’t waste time wondering and hanging at the crossroad, just as if you’re only given the single right turn.
Tony Robbins provides the world with four simple rules for making decisions. Once you set yourself up for determining your purpose, and clarity of the decision at hand, you will be more decisive and you will be able to make an important decision.
The Four Rules for Decision-Making he lists are:
Decide and keep going. You don’t need to keep afflicting yourself with hesitation and doubts. Act and begin to move forward, as soon enough, you will need to make another decision.
Once you’ve made the decision, do not waste your time overthinking and asking yourself, “Whether it was right or not?” Don’t look back. You will make yourself crazy by overanalyzing. The solution is already taken. Just go forward.
In his book, “How To Stop Worrying and Start Living,” Dale Carnegie writes, “The wood gets cut, and then you use the wood for something. Ever sawed sawdust? No? You know why? Because there’s no point to it!”
Do you often hesitate? How do you make decisions? What is your approach?
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About The Author
Dr. Mila is an internationally known Change Catalyst. She teaches individuals and organizations about awareness, connection, and the need for change – personally, socially, and professionally.