There’s so much hype, fluff, misinformation around how to find what your passion or purpose in life is and how to live by it.
We deserve more!
We deserve the real deal not the headlines for the sake of free publicity.
Moments of clarity are worth more than coins, they are priceless. What I am about to share is by no means an advert or a sales pitch to convince you to buy someone’s program or buy into the lie that you need that book or some self-development coach tips to grow into the person you are becoming.
“Freedom flourishes upon the bedrock of ethics and integrity.”
I intend to strip the band-aid, no matter how painful it is and to open your eyes, the same way mine did, to the possibilities that lie dormant in front of you.
Not so long ago I was going through a depression, at the time I had no idea that I was depressed, for me it was a dark night of the soul or some other new age concept I had bought into, ascension problems or something like that. The truth was that I had no clue what to do with my life, I felt isolated, completely alien and amid binging mornings, extreme cardio sessions, self-loathing minutes in front of the mirror and naps during the day to avoid facing the fact that I was procrastinating, I found a clue.
It wasn’t nice, it was a punch in the face, a coach who had the stomach to open my eyes to the truth of what this world is and who allowed me to see myself from a different perspective.
I gave up figuring ways to fix myself, reading obsessively book after book looking for the answers I already had within me, I committed to one truth and just one and since then life has turned out to be much lighter, not easier, it simply flows where I stir it to.
In the late 1990s, theoretical physicists uncovered a remarkable connection between two seemingly unrelated concepts in theoretical physics. That connection is almost inscrutably technical, but it might have far-reaching consequences for our understanding of gravity and even the universe.
Investigating irregularities in the cosmic microwave background (the ‘afterglow’ of the Big Bang), they have found there is substantial evidence supporting a holographic explanation of the universe – in fact, as much as there is for the traditional explanation of these irregularities using the theory of cosmic inflation.
A holographic Universe means information that makes up what we perceive as a 3D reality is stored on a 2D surface, including time. This means, essentially, everything you see and experience is an illusion.
“Imagine that everything you see, feel and hear in three dimensions, and your perception of time, in fact, emanates from a flat two-dimensional field,” says Professor Kostas Skenderis from the University of Southampton.
I’ll let you dig deeper into this theory and will link the sources below but for now, let’s keep it relatively simple.
For the uninitiated, this might sound like some type of metaphysical woo-woo but it’s been proved we are thoughts shaped in matter experiencing life through the lenses of perception ‘stained’ by previous experiences and beliefs.
The good thing is that beliefs can be transformed, it’s not easy, but they can be reprogrammed.
The ugly part is that you might have to shed most of your past life and behavior to enter the new reality.
The worst part is not even trying.
The best part is that once you get into it why would you want to go back to being miserable?
Fast forward a year I had the first session with one of the best coaches in the industry and call it destiny call it my determination to make things happen, the clarity after 2 hours sitting there was something I can’t explain.
To give you a brief background scenario, I was practicing singing, dancing, writing songs, writing a blog, launching a podcast, training for a fitness competition, coaching clients in life and success, curating social media content…all for what? To create a community that barely survived and wasn’t engaged.
The problem wasn’t the community or their engagement level, the challenge was me, I was all over the place, having my fingers in all these pies, not mastering any, being devoted in my head to the gym and yet, not giving it my all because for some reason I felt I wasn’t good enough to put all my eggs on that basket.
You see the thought process here?
Deep down we know what we want, deep down we have the desire and the vision, we have the calling but moving past the initial fear requires deep work.
“The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.”
Money is never a problem. I have been making moves without the funds that I thought I needed initially and let me tell you, life gets even more exciting when you dare to move past that comfort zone.
In the end, what’s the worst that can happen?
I’m not saying be reckless, I’m saying be a little bit more adventurous. And not even that, be whatever you want but be it, don’t wait until you are ready because you will never be.
The real deal about purpose is doing what you would do even if no-one paid you to do it. Simple.
If money wasn’t the issue, what would you do?
You like doing ceramic, pottery, gardening, photography, training, jumping rope, whatever it is there’s a place for you, there’s a way to monetize it and there are people who want it.
What I have learned from this journey into the unknown so far is that there’s a life force that somehow takes care of the details, once you start moving towards that goal, with a clear mind and clear heart.
Life becomes a chain of events that bring you to the right person at the right time and guides you to the right place.
Living like this is living through faith, you don’t allow the external world to determine your actions, you listen to the inner voice and learn to master listening and acting on it.
How to do that?
“You don’t learn to walk by following rules. You learn by doing, and by falling over.”
If you don’t take the leap of faith don’t expect the world to hand you your dreams. Full stop.
And jumping doesn’t mean literally jumping, it means to take the first step, when you have taken the first step take the second, the more you walk the more your confidence grows and the bolder your steps. Then you can go from 1 to 10 in one step, it’s all up to you now!
Quoting Alan Watts:
“Advice? I don’t have any advice. Stop aspiring and start writing. If you’re writing, you’re a writer. Write like you’re a goddamn death row inmate and the governor is out of the country and there’s no chance for a pardon. Write like you’re clinging to the edge of a cliff, white knuckles, on your last breath, and you’ve got just one last thing to say, like you’re a bird flying over us and you can see everything, and please, for God’s sake, tell us something that will save us from ourselves. Take a deep breath and tell us your deepest, darkest secret, so we can wipe our brow and know that we’re not alone. Write like you have a message from the king. Or don’t. Who knows, maybe you’re one of the lucky ones who doesn’t have to.”