How to keep moving forward when things fall apart

When things don’t turn out the way that we expect, what happens? We feel bad about ourselves. Sometimes we lash out at others, and often, we take it out on ourselves.

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We fail to remember that as human beings, we all have emotions and it’s ok to have these emotions. As social creatures, we look for confirmation and validation that we belong. Quoted from Brené Brown’s new book, she states “Stop walking through the world looking for confirmation that you don’t belong. You will always find it because you’ve made that your mission. Stop scouring people’s faces for evidence that you’re not enough.”

Ask for Constructive Feedback

It’s challenging to ask for feedback when it could be negative or things that you don’t want to hear. To think about this from a different perspective, what if it’s information that can make you better? Keeping an open perspective in believing that others truly want to help you will make the process of asking and receiving feedback easier.

According to Tony Robbins, “Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” Instead of asking myself “Why does this always happen to me?”, I replace it with “What can I learn from this experience?” Of course, this switch doesn’t always happen automatically and at times, it takes a while for the shift to occur. Though, the more that I practice, the easier it becomes; just like with anything in life.

Push Forward and Just Do It

According to Brian Tracy, “If you have to eat two frogs, eat the ugliest one first. This is another way of saying that if you have two important tasks before you, start with the biggest, hardest, and most important task first.”

Do the hardest things that you need to do first in your day to gain momentum and to get the quick wins. In the morning, my brain automatically wants to check email and Social Media, so I have to keep challenging myself to “Eat the Frog.” Following a consistent morning routine is something that I’ve been continually working on to set myself up for whatever happens in the day. I’ve been following Hal Erod’s ‘Miracle Morning” for a while now. The morning routine consists of affirmations, meditation, physical movement, reading, writing and affirmations.

Honour Where You Are

Learning new skills takes time and practice. It can even be a challenging and repetitive process. Think about when you were a child learning how to walk. How many times did you fall down before you started walking easily and effortlessly? As adults, we become afraid to try new things because we have been burned before. Honour where you are; accept and appreciate all that is in your life and more good things will come your way.

A reminder that you are enough! Thank you Urban Outfitters in the Marina, San Francisco for this great display window!
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