When challenges come my way, whether it’s a heated disagreement with a friend, family member, or boss/coworker, a tough decision I have to make regarding a job, relationship, or health matter, or whatever question I need to be answered, I have a particular process that brings me clarity so I can hear my inner voice. You may also call it intuition! It’s that still, unmistakable voice that provides the best answers to the questions I have in my life!
Repeatedly friends and clients ask me, “How can I hear and be sure that’s my inner voice?” So, I decided to write about my process, which has helped me learn about discernment as well.
Let’s start from the beginning. What’s the inner voice?
The inner voice is the authentic self! This is the place where we access the intuition that helps us define and know the difference between all the “other” voices we can hear inside our head. Those voices are usually the ego talking, often louder and with varying opinions. The ego is concerned about its patterns such as control, comfort, security, over-responsibility, recognition, approval, and self-importance. It narrates one’s thoughts, feelings, and actions.
The authentic self or inner voice is a higher level of consciousness that resides BEYOND the mind and the emotions. You recognize its presence by qualities such as acceptance, compassion, joy, peace, enthusiasm, forgiveness, gratitude, and unconditional loving. When you experience these positive attributes is when you’ll know you’re listening to your inner voice.
This extraordinary level of consciousness is already residing within you as a faculty of your authentic self! How genius is that? Listening to this distinct voice within is what inspires and guides us.
After you have tapped into this awareness, ask yourself these questions, “What is the voice saying? What words is it using? How do you feel listening to it?” And, then, “Are you feeling anxious, restless, judgmental, upset, confused, fearful, or even stupid? Or perhaps unworthy or unlovable?
If the answer is “yes” to any of those questions that’s not the inner voice talking! That’s the ego or critical voice demanding to be heard because it may be experiencing mental or emotional disturbances, and the mind may be experiencing confusion, dilemma, or judgment. When emotions of pain, hurt, anger, irritation, frustration, or fear erupt, it’s difficult to shift from a state of negativity to one of positivity.
So, what do we do next? How do we calm all these different aspects of ourselves so we can actually hear our true inner voice?
I’ve created five steps for you that outline what I do to get connected to my inner voice.
Calming our minds and emotions so we can “hear ourselves think” is an old expression that we our parents may have reminded us of when we were kids. And, it is true! This process requires stillness, quiet, and listening, which becomes an active practice for whenever you need to hear your inner voice.
So, remember, you know your inner voice is speaking because it’s a loving voice; there are no judgments. No negativity! Its counsel is positive. Think of your inner voice as your soul’s voice. It always wants the best for you!
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