Do you ever get stuck in your head? Over-analyzing every move and wading through the weeds of fear and negativity in your own mind?
Let’s be real – we’re all human. Sometimes we fall into a negative spiral, not quite sure how to make our way out. The most positive and productive people sometimes fall into this trap, and can end up feeling worried, lost, and confused – even if we think they’ve got it all together from the outside looking in.
I used to be in this state almost constantly. Looking back at that time in my life, I don’t know how I did it! That’s no way to live, and I’m very grateful that I now live my life mainly from my heart rather than my head.
I still have my moments though…it happened to me recently, I went from feeling confident and capable to feeling scared, insecure, and unsure of what my next move should be. I hate that feeling, and after I snapped out of it, I started thinking about what tricks we can use to get ourselves out of negative head spaces when they happen. Here are my favorite ways to bust through the walls of my head and come out more fired up and focused than ever:
1. Have you noticed that the more you try to get out of your head, the harder it is? Your thoughts turn to the fact that you shouldn’t be stuck in your head, and the harder you try, the more you spiral into it. Stop focusing on what you shouldn’t be doing. Be present, breathe, and experience the moment.
2. Write about it. Sometimes we just need to let our negative emotions out in a safe way. I recently heard about a friend who had an amazing breakthrough by writing with two voices: the negative stuck-in-your-head voice, and the calm reasonable voice. He would write out all the stuff he was struggling with, and then ask himself questions about it from his other voice, finding fault with the negative logic. Whether you take this approach or not, journaling is an excellent way to let it out and try to make sense of it all.
3. Listen to music that makes you happy. This is one of my favorite things to do and is always a great mood-lifter for me. Take a drive, blast your favorite happy tunes, and belt them out LOUD!
4. Talking to someone about your struggles can do wonders. It’s not just the support and words of wisdom that they might give you that helps, it’s talking through what’s happening in your head. This is what works the best for me when I feel stuck. Trying to explain and justify my worries and fears to someone and hearing them out loud usually makes me realize that they’re unfounded.
5. Remember to focus on what you can control and take consistent action towards your goals. Keep your momentum going. If you feel stuck or scared, it usually means you’re growing out of your comfort zone, which is a really great thing!
The most important thing is not to beat yourself about getting stuck in your head.
It happens to the best of us.
We’re not perfect.
You just have to take control and do your thing anyway.
Originally published at www.meganbergeron.com