The twenties trap is a period of time in your twenties where your expectation and reality do not match and therefore you attempt to resolve it by trying something new because well, youth is your biggest asset. This usually can result in lasting ripples well into your next decade.
Many of those around me are approaching their thirties, and you can see their anxiety building on their wedding planning, house buying, and preparing for a baby. Then there are those who are taking a year off to travel with their partner and taking the road less traveled. The social media loves the latter.
Soon, our screens are filled with couples on Inca Trails and large backpacks emerging at Vietnam’s floating fish villages. That’s what the twenties’ expectations were: their physical body at their primal peak experiencing every sensation possible and intaking the fresh air of being worry-free. No one wants to see breastfeeding and diaper changing on their newsfeed, they want to see pretty images and the manifestation of having the luxury of time to experience the unexamined life.
That’s why many of the twenties fall into the trap. They only see what it should be but not what it is. They fail to realize that the twenties is having the courage to make decisions that impact the rest of your life. They fail to realize it is the fight against temptations and impulses. The twenties is the most defining decade and the hardest to navigate.
I have been fortunate to foresee the difficulties of the twenties and designed my path so that I had enough room to pivot if needed. After years of being in the same field, I was also lucky enough to realize the impact of my field and the transferable skills I have developed overtime. What I didn’t foresee though, was the tremendous self-discipline that is needed to remain logical and rational in the time of temptation and impulses. For this, I have gathered a couple resources to help me remain in the state of clear mind:
Regardless, you are not alone in your twenties. The whole world is actually looking at us to see what we can do with our potential. We just have to stay level-headed, continue to have conversations with ourselves and thrive.