Everyone has been hurt. Maybe your parents criticized you when you were young, or you were pushed aside and ignored while everyone else got picked first in dodge ball. Whether it was a big incident or something small, these wounds can leave you feeling angry and bitter.
When we don’t aggressively forgive, we might be the ones who pay the biggest price. By contrast, by embracing forgiveness, we invite congruence, confidence, gratitude and joy in our lives. As we explore authenticity, let’s consider how forgiveness can improve our lives in the physical, emotional and spiritual.
Forgiveness is a simply a choice to let go of anger and bitterness. This doesn’t mean that the pain will go away, it may always remain in your life. When we forgive we lesson the hold the bitterness holds on our lives. This allows us to focus on the positive aspects that truly matter. Best case scenario, forgiveness may lead to understanding, empathy for the one who hurt you.
When we forgive we are not denying or writing off the other person’s responsibility and we are not justifying the wrong. One can forgive without excusing the act. Here, we are simply allowing ourselves to rise above the situation.
As stated earlier, forgiveness can improve our lives in the physical, emotional and spiritual. Forgiveness can lead to:
When you chose to hold on to the grudge you may:
Forgiving is a choice to begin a process. The way you chose to let go of past hurt is completely in your hands. Each person, and each experience is different and each is colored by our own life experiences. Some ideas to begin are below:
When, not if, you find yourself stuck:
In the end forgiveness can bring back your own personal power by taking away the power the other person held in your life up till now. Being authentic is about embracing the authentic. The pain is real, the hurt is real, what we do with it is our choice.
Every one of us should consider the mistakes we’ve made from an honest perspective. All religions and philosophies speak of man’s faultiness. While generally well meaning at heart, we will all fall short of our standards and the standards of others. When we realize that our decisions have impacted other lives we will begin to see ourselves in a true manner.
Originally published at thehumblegents.com