I have the privilege of working with a lot of assertive, direct women.
They aren’t afraid to speak up.
If they have an idea, they share it.
When someone says something they disagree with, they express their counterpoint.
And when they feel personally attacked by a colleague, the hairs on the back of their neck may stand up and they prepare themselves to fight back.
This is where things get tricky…
We keep telling women to be confident, not take crap and stand up for themselves.
But that doesn’t always work in our favor.
Especially when we’re dealing with jerks.
You know who I mean.
That jerk who always undermines you.
That jerk who shows up late to all your meetings and plays on his phone the whole time except to chime in when he disagrees with you.
The jerk who gaslights you and makes you feel crazy for any concerns you have.
The jerk who blatantly lies.
Dealing with a jerk at work can be tough for anyone.
But it can be particularly challenging and triggering for strong, assertive women.
These women have spent their whole careers speaking up and refusing to be pushed around.
Some have even developed a chip on their shoulder because they’ve had to fight SO hard to get where they are today.
What this means is…
The tactics that have helped you get ahead in your career won’t work on jerks. In fact, speaking up and fighting back will probably only make it worse.
This is something that comes up regularly for my clients. (Sadly, there are still a lot of jerks out there).
Typically, when jerks rear their ugly head, I see my clients either fight, flee or do nothing at all.
None of these options are going to really resolve the situation in your favor.
So what can you do?
And if you really can’t improve the situation, then don’t stick around. Being miserable at work sucks and can chip away at your self-esteem, emotional well-being and your health.
These strategies take some work and may not feel natural at first, especially for badass assertive women who don’t take crap.
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Originally published at www.mosaicgrowth.com