Tough times never last. Tough people do.
Overwhelming periods of life happen to all of us.
Even Life Coaches suffer from them occasionally – I can assure you!
So, what do you do when everything starts to feel way too heavy, complicated and stressful? When you want to retreat from the world and escape – but can’t?
The first step is a little reality check. Can you be totally objective about what you have on your plate right now?
Pause – Survey – Reflect – Adjust
Maybe you’re experiencing temporary overload due to a shift in career demands? Is it because of a recent resettlement? An ongoing problem that you just can’t seem to resolve? Are you battling with health issues (your own or of those closest to you)? Is your work/life balance out of kilter?
When we start to reach breaking point, it’s almost always caused from the exhaustion of juggling far too much. So, if this sounds like you right now, I have some good news. Fortunately there are some great little self help tools you can employ to ease things.
When life becomes unmanageable for any of us, one of the best first steps is to gain a bit of clarity and perspective. So, with this in mind, I’ve compiled a helpful checklist. Run through the bullet points below to see which apply best to you, then let the tips that follow help blow a few stormclouds away.
Trying to silently push through the exhausting times of life is never the answer. When you start to feel overwhelmed, your first port of call should always be a chat with someone who loves you, understands your situation – and has your best interests at heart.
What are family and friends for if not supporting us during tough times? You would do exactly the same for them, right? Is there someone you can reach out to? People often don’t realise you are struggling unless you tell them.
Light at the end of the tunnel
Remember that nothing bad, however tough, lasts forever. Nothing! In the pits of my own despair many years ago, I always knew that the end of this miserable (divorce) period would eventually come.
A resilient spirit, combined with some regular self love and kindness will do you the world of good. Invest in valuable ‘you’ time.
Try to see past your current situation, and focus on what good lies ahead. Change and growth – and some occasional hardship – often go hand in hand.
We all tend to think that others are coping better than us. Living less stressful lives maybe. Well, guess what? That just isn’t true, so don’t drive yourself crazy thinking this way. No-one escapes tough times! Your current situation may be unique – but you will absolutely survive it.
Even when you’re really battling, you must remember that you are in total control of your emotions. You control how you handle the perceived stress in your life. So if something is important to you, and it’s worth fighting for, keep those goal posts firmly in sight.
“Grab life by the horns and give it everything you’ve got!”
There’s never a better time to love yourself than when times are tough. Whether it’s time out for a massage, a solo visit to see the movie you’ve been longing to watch, grabbing your running shoes for half an hour in the wonderful embrace of Mother Nature – or simply curling up with a coffee and a good book. Don’t be shy about putting your own needs first.
What do grey skies bring? Miserable rain and thunderclouds? Well yes, you could look at it that way. But don’t they also bring the water that we need for survival? Without rain where would you be right now? Do strive to see the upside of all situations. What are you learning today?
“Many good things are borne out of bad experiences.”
Chisel down hard on your daily load and establish the real priorities? What are they?
Enjoy your own company sometimes. Solitude does wonders for purposeful self reflection during stressful times.
Small. Powerful. Vital. Learn to say ‘no’ more often – and feel your load lighten instantly.
Not surprisingly, most of us forget the importance of diet and exercise during taxing periods of life. Are you perhaps allowing a poor diet and lack of movement to add to your worries?
It’s there! Look for it and you’ll be surprised to see how even the toughest of days have hidden rainbows.
Avoid heavy, doom laden tabloid and media articles when things are piling up on top of you. The simple daily act of consuming uplifting content will have a profound impact on your level of happiness – I guarantee it. This is a simple Life Coaching trick that really works.
When we’re stressed and a bit overwrought, we often turn to the shortlived comfort of our favourite vices. Whether your vice of choice is junk food, too much food, alcohol, nicotine or late night Netflix binge sessions – be aware that these are just adding to your current problems.
Be self aware. Can you identify what your vices are? Can you replace them with healthier alternatives?
Ah! The restorative – often elusive – kingdom of sleep!
Sadly, sleep problems have a habit of rearing their ugly heads when you least appreciate it.
If your current situation is affecting your sleep patterns, do try to minimise the damage by whatever means it takes. Try daytime power napping, avoiding use of devices an hour before bed, a warm bedtime drink or even a soothing bath before sliding between the sheets.
Sleep should be a priority every day, but never more so that when you’re out of synch for whatever reason.
Unfortunately, the challenging times of life can’t be avoided. But we can definitely decide on a great plan of action to tackle them. The next time you notice familiar signs of overload creeping into your life, stand back and review first of all. Then run through the above tips to establish where you can help yourself. Remembering that easier times always return is one of the best motivators to set you back on a happier, more positive course.
PS Did I miss something that you find useful when you’re feeling pressure in your life? What are your secret weapons?
Originally published at www.sarah-virag.com