“I know there’s something bigger out there for me, but I’m so burned out, I don’t know where to start.”
I hear this all the time.
Many people I know and work with are looking for fulfilling careers. They want their work to be their life’s work, and they want the hours they spend in the office to have a larger impact on the world.
Despite this goal, they’re struggling with a big issue: burnout.
A recent Gallup study of nearly 7,500 full-time employees found that 23 percent reported feeling burned out at work very often or always, while an additional 44 percent reported feeling burned out sometimes.
Job burnout accounts for an estimated $125 billion to $190 billion in health-care spending each year and has been attributed to type 2 diabetes, coronary heart disease, gastrointestinal issues, high cholesterol and even death for those under the age of 45.
What’s the impact of this? What kind of work can we really produce when we’re operating from a place of exhaustion? And is it possible to even feel connected to the part of ourselves that has the ability to make an impact?
If we want to make a difference, we have to first be mentally, emotionally and physically healthy. It’s only from a place of health that we can tap into our creativity and think bigger to drive change.
There are cultural and societal circumstances that contribute to burnout, and I’ll quickly reference articles like this that highlight how the workplace applauds burnout and “busy” culture.
It’s important to bring awareness to these realities; however, what I’m going to focus on in this article is what we can do as individuals to drive change for ourselves.
I’ve been through burnout too. I’ve bought into societal pressure, I’ve pushed myself too far, and I’ve believed that my self worth comes from doing (even when the “doing” was just mindless busy work).
Because of my experience, I know the impact of burnout too well. I also know change starts with the individual.
So here’s how to approach breaking the cycle of burnout, which is the first step to achieving any goal.
Identify the habits that serve you and the habits that harm you
Our habits are driving a majority of our decision-making. In fact, 40% to 45% of what we do everyday sort of feels like a decision, but it’s not the case.
Because our working memory can only hold four to seven pieces of information at one time, once we master an activity, it moves to a different part of our brain and it becomes automatic.
This is fascinating to me because it demonstrates that most of our present actions are based on beliefs we’ve adopted in the past or past experiences.
Additionally, we form physical, mental and emotional habits through repetition. The more we repeat something the more it becomes automatic, and the easier it is to do over and over again.
Let’s talk about how this applies to burnout.
The Mayo Clinic defines burnout in this way: Job burnout is a special type of work-related stress — a state of physical or emotional exhaustion that also involves a sense of reduced accomplishment and loss of personal identity.
When you’re experiencing emotional exhaustion, a sense of reduced accomplishment or a loss of personal identity, how do you respond? Do you stop to process your feelings and stress or do you push through hoping things will get better?
Your answer to this will shed some light on an emotional habit – whether or not you’re allowing yourself to be aware of your emotions.
We have to process our stress and work with our emotions rather than push through. If we push through for too long (or avoid the stress in front of us) it builds up – and eventually we crash.
So how do we process our emotions, especially if we don’t yet have the awareness to know if we’re in avoidance?
Identify your emotional triggers
What are emotional triggers? Emotional triggers are events or experiences that trigger a negative emotional response.
Maybe a boss speaks to you in a certain way or a friend says something to you, and that triggers a feeling of sadness, anger or frustration. You feel activated emotionally and you shift from a place of calm to a more negative state.
We all have these experiences and reactions, but I believe emotional triggers can be harmful when we’re not aware of them.
Many of our triggers are happening in our subconscious.
Additionally, if we have a habit of avoiding our emotions, we’re going to push that trigger in the back of our mind.
And what’s the impact of that?
It will likely show up again until we deal with it and better understand what’s triggering us.
Emotional triggers can zap our energy and contribute to our burnout. The first step to working through this is to build awareness of what triggers us.
Start by listening to your feelings and labeling those emotions. Are you feeling sad, angry, frustrated, a sense of dread, scared?
What thoughts are associated with these emotions? If you ask yourself enough questions, you’ll get to the root of the trigger, and you can better understand what you need to shift to a more positive state.
Don’t do it alone. Together is really better
When it comes to working through our burnout, our stress or our emotional triggers, our initial reaction may be to do it alone.
After all, sharing our feelings and opening up requires us to be vulnerable.
In the workplace, this may be even more challenging because of office politics and the organizational culture. You may not want to draw attention to your mental health because of potential repercussions.
But here’s why doing it alone may be harder.
As a society and as humans, we’ve evolved in groups because groups have been critical to our survival.
Back in the day when we were cavemen, groups provided physical safety and protected us from lack of food and harsh weather.
We’re not dealing with the same physical threats today, but we are dealing with social threats like workplace toxicity, stress, status and other factors that contribute to burnout.
Our social threats feel the same as physical threats; therefore, just like we’ve protected ourselves physically in groups, relying on groups and communities can provide social safety.
This applies to finding support in our careers – whether we need that support to find a new job, to help us cope with a difficult boss or to help us move up.
Furthermore, according to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs we have a series of needs which are critical for our evolution.
We start with our basic physiological needs such as food and water, and after those are met, we move to safety and security.
After we meet our basic needs, we need to feel a sense of belonging – so we move to find love and relationships and friendships.
Following that, we seek prestige and accomplishment, and eventually we move toward self actualization – which is about reaching your full potential
Having a sense of belonging is critical as you move through your human experience. It provides support when you’re feeling alone and unable to process your emotions. And positive feelings of love and belonging can help us work through our emotional triggers.
Think about how your relationships have supported you through challenging times in the past.
How can you leverage those connections during dark times?
It’s possible to find fulfillment with your work. It starts with first breaking the cycle of burnout – which consists of becoming more aware of your emotions, your thoughts and your actions. The process is worth it because you tap into a healthier, more conscious version of yourself. And when you access that place, so much more is possible.
Belma McCaffrey is a leadership and career coach who leverages neuroscience to support with leadership development. She’s also the CEO and Founder of Work Bigger, a career development platforming helping you do work you love that makes a difference in the world without burning out. Download her free audio training on breaking the cycle of burnout and identifying you emotional triggers.