How to Believe in Yourself Even When You Don’t.

Keep the end goal in front of you, hold the vision tightly, understand that there will be obstacles, that you will suffer, comprehend though that you will get stronger and nothing will break you by then. 

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Have you ever tried to open a door with the wrong key? 

It is frustrating and you won’t be able to open it, right? The same happens in life. Listen, you might have been told that life happens linearly, that you go to college, then get a job, climb the ladder, get married, have kids, have the house, live the dream and die peacefully. 

That’s how the plot of a corny soap opera unfolds.

Life happens outside all the lines and all the plans you have made for it, it happens outside what you have been told, it happens in the fear zone, where you don’t know how but you trust that it will work out. 

That’s life if you choose to live it. 

When I write I don’t do it to convince anybody that my path is the truth, success has infinite faces, each one of us has a blueprint in their veins designed to create a life to remember. When I write I do it because I have a talent and it’s in me the same way it is in a songwriter who writes songs and a dancer who performs, you just do it. It’s natural. And like every talent it needs practice, the more you practice the better you get at it and the better your results. 

Last month I was without a gym, I had to leave a vacuum space until I found THE gym for me, for my needs, to help me achieve what I want to achieve. One month away from the weights room, from sweating, I did something at home but it’s not the same. This month taught me something. 

First, that if you told me that the world is ending today I would still go to the gym if I survived. 

Second, that you might work really hard for something and get it but if you relax, if you get complacent, if you take it for granted, it’s gone. What took me years to build can be lost in weeks if I don’t maintain it. 

This is applicable to anything you are up to, whatever you choose to focus on, keep at it, even when it’s tough, with more reason when it gets tough, because if you give up the person who wins will be the one who is more resilient, mentally stronger, and wants it more. 

While doing my workout this morning I was listening to Greg Plitt and if you haven’t listened to his speeches and you want a kick in the gear, he is your man. 

“Opportunities don’t come knocking on the door. They present themselves when you knock the f*#king door down.” – Greg Plitt

For a long time, I was that person, the one waiting for a miracle to happen, the one thinking I was blessed and favoured, the one thinking my time would come and everything would be ok. The one believing in the rosé reality of those around me. The one who almost let the world eat me alive. But it didn’t. And here I am and I can tell you that it gets better, one day it does, only if you make the decision to make it so. 

Why am I sharing this? 

Because even though I do it for cathartic purposes, there must be a reason why I have this talent and ability to share so I get to put it out there and one day, who knows, someone might read it and it will change a life. 

You never know how long you have left so you must make a move, this is what I tell myself every morning. Instead of settling for second best I go all in and choose, sometimes it works out and some times I learn, so long as I am breathing and I keep moving forward I am winning. 

That’s what I want you to understand, so long as you are pushing forward, so long as you are evolving, so long as you are learning, applying, growing, pivoting, whatever you need to do to make it happen, you are winning. 

Don’t get lost in the background scenery, what others are achieving, what others have or who they are. We are all doing our job and mine this time is the fitness crown. 

‘In Buddhism, desire and ignorance lie at the root of suffering. By desire, Buddhists refer to craving pleasure, material goods, and immortality, all of which are wants that can never be satisfied. As a result, desiring them can only bring suffering.’ (

I disagree.

Desire is what makes life exist, desire is what manifests greatness, desire keeps ups alive, desire is what makes life exciting, desire has brought to us electricity, planes, spaceships and progress, desire is fire, is fuel, if you are satisfied you are dying, you might be breathing but you are dying inside, you are losing the roar, you are basically allowing all the noise around you to make you small. 

You are a giant! 

You are magnificent! 

You are powerful! 

You are infinite! 

You are limitless! 

You are the ocean, the universe, God, you are are it all! 

You are the answer, the cause, and the effect, the word, and the praise, the battle, and the rewards, you are the reason why we are here, you are the world, you are what you are longing for, you are the one you are looking for. 

“You must learn not to look upon the world as a lost and decaying thing but as a something perfect and glorious which is going on to a most beautiful completeness; and you must learn to see men and women not as lost and accursed things, but as perfect beings advancing to become complete.” Wallace D. Wattles

I was off track for a while so it is possible to get back on track with the right attitude.

Having a spiritual practice should have a purpose, the purpose of helping you connect with the life force within you and help you create a life that inspires you in the material world. Having a practice is not to avoid responsibility, hide from pain or be so naive that you think everything will work out just because you think so. 

Having a spiritual practice makes you a warrior, helps you know yourself, helps you stay grounded and centered, helps you get clarity and see the world for what it is. Having a practice gives you discipline and that’s why I recommend waking up early, meditating, journaling, reading something that will help you grow, every morning for at least an hour. 

Having a practice helps you connect with the inner wisdom and that’s the key. 

For a long time, I read all the new age websites and spiritual quotes and that helps lift your spirit but, they don’t take action for you. What matters is that you see it and then move towards it. Even if you are only given the first step and you feel like you are moving blindly towards it. 

Keep the end goal in front of you, hold the vision tightly, understand that there will be obstacles, that you will suffer, comprehend though that you will get stronger and nothing will break you by then.  

“To believe in the things you can see and touch is no belief at all; but to believe in the unseen is a triumph and a blessing.” Bob Proctor

This life isn’t for everybody. And I don’t recommend it to everybody. Being fearless requires courage and sometimes that means walking on your own for a long time.

Don’t let fear stop you, let it fuel you, let it be an opportunity to become stronger, it’s all in your head, the same way you can believe that you can’t do something you can choose to believe in yourself. It’s simply a choice, go for it or stay where you are. 

Have you ever tried to learn a choreography listening to the voice in your head telling you how bad your coordination is? 

That voice is a liar. If you keep going you will shut it down. Trust me. Been there. 

‘If you believe in yourself and have dedication and pride – and never quit, you’ll be a winner. The price of victory is high but so are the rewards.’ Bear Bryant

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