Surround yourself with people who lift you higher. This is a topic we talk a lot about on my Facebook community. Get rid of toxic people in your life, cultivate relationships with others who LIFT YOU UP. Surround yourself with those who reflect the person you want to be. Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you — people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it. Relationships should help you, not hurt you. After all, life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. When you free yourself from negative people, you free yourself to be YOU — and being YOU is the only way to truly live.
While all of this Facebook talk is good and great here’s a question we never ask, “What Am I doing to LIFT others higher?” “Am I the type of person others want to be around??”
Negative thinking, settling for second best, and unhealthy habits are contagious. But guess what else is? Self improvement, positive living, healthy habits, and choosing happiness. Want to be an inspiration to others and LIFT them up? Start by improving yourself first. The way you live affects everyone around you, so lead by example and make the right choices. You can improve your community just by starting with yourself.
Share the LOVE. People don’t remember what you say, they remember how you made them feel. Make them feel good. Supporting, guiding, and making contributions to other people is one of life’s greatest rewards. In order to get, you have to give.
Show everyone kindness and respect. Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you — not because they are nice, but because you are. There are no boundaries or classes that define a group of people that deserve to be respected. Treat everyone with the same level of respect you would give to your grandmother and the same level of patience you would have with a child. People will notice your kindness and it will most likely produce positive results.
Accept people just the way they are. In most cases it’s impossible to change them anyway, and it’s rude to try. Save yourself from needless stress. Instead of trying to change others, give them your support, love and acceptance. Lead by example.
Encourage others and cheer for them. Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are leads to productive, fulfilling, and peaceful outcomes. Be happy for those who are making progress and cheer for their victories. Show gratitude and be thankful for others openly. What goes around comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you.
Forgive Others and LET GO. Holding on to resentment is like drinking poison, you end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Dont live with hate in your heart or let your days be clouded by anger. Learn to forgive and LET GO. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the remedy. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life. Remember, the less time you spend hating the people who hurt you, the more time you’ll have to love the people who love you.
Give what you want to receive. Don’t expect what you are not willing to give. Start practicing the golden rule. If you want love, give love. If you want good friends, be a good friend. If you want money, provide value. It works. It really is this simple.
Keep your promises and tell the truth. If you say you’re going to do something, DO IT! If you say you’re going to be somewhere, BE THERE! If you say you feel something, MEAN IT! If you can’t, won’t, and don’t, then DON’T LIE. It’s always better to tell people the truth up front. Dont play games with people’s heads and hearts. Remember, love and friendship don’t hurt. Lying, cheating and screwing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts. Never mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours. Always be open and honest.
Talk a little less, listen more, and pay attention to others. Most of the time people don’t need lots of advice, they need a listening ear and positive reinforcement. What they want to know is often already somewhere inside of them. They just need time to think, be and breathe, and continue to explore the undirected journeys that will eventually help them find their direction.
Be your imperfectly perfect self. In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your awesome self. People enjoy spending time with others who are happy, content, and confident. Be who you are and OWN IT. You’ll empower others to do the same.
Work on being the type of person you want to be around.
You must focus energy inward first. Before befriending others, you have to be your own friend. Before making others happy, you have to make yourself happy. It’s not called selfishness; it’s called personal development.
Even when you’re with others, you’re still with yourself. When you wake up in the morning, you’re with yourself. Laying in bed at night you’re with yourself. Walking down the street at noon you’re with yourself. What kind of person do you want to walk down the street with? What kind of person do you want to wake up in the morning with? What kind of person do you want to see at the end of the day before you fall asleep? It’s your responsibility to be the person you want to be with.
It’s important to surround yourself with relationships that lift you up, but first it’s important to start with yourself. Whats one way you can work on being the type of person you want to meet starting today?
Surround yourself with positive people by joining me in the facebook community. Looking forward to connecting with you online and continuing to watch you shine. YOU are the type of person I want to meet!!
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Originally published at www.carolinejordanfitness.com on September 1, 2013.
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