When you think of classy, who comes to mind? Audrey Hepburn maybe? Grace Kelly?
Some of my favorite classy women are Amal Clooney, Michelle Obama, Julia Roberts, Meryl Streep, Oprah, Bernice King, Princess Diana, Emma Watson and Serena Williams.
What differentiates a classy woman from one lacking class?
There’s a great misconception that classiness is about money, perfectly manicured nails and a closet filled with couture clothing.
This is false.
True class has absolutely nothing to do with money and everything to do with character and a woman’s sense of self-worth.
Classy women exude an air of genuine self-confidence that comes from being 150% comfortable within their own skin. They know who they are, they know their purpose, and they walk with their heads held high and their eyes laser-focused on their goals. They’re purposeful, driven, sharp AND heart-centered.
The classy woman has poise. She’s unperturbable. She’s cool as a cucumber. She has mastered her emotions and has achieved a level of self-restraint. She still feels deeply and experiences the full range of human emotions but she’s learned how to express herself effectively and powerfully.
The classy woman has no time for gossip. She doesn’t talk about people but instead focuses on discussing ideas, ambitions, dreams and goals. The classy woman understands that gossiping is and will always be trashy. She doesn’t compete with and tear other women down. On the contrary, she does what she can to uplift other women because she doesn’t feel threatened by other women’s success.
The classy woman knows exactly who and what she is, and doesn’t feel the need to hide behind a mask. She makes no apologies for who she is. She’s no chameleon. The classy woman is not concerned with other people’s opinions of her, nor is she concerned with what she ‘should’ be or ‘should’ do. The classy woman is deeply rooted in her own truth.
The classy woman knows what her core values are and she doesn’t sacrifice her morals for popularity or approval. She stands strong in what she believes and does not succumb to people pleasing. Her inner matches her outer. Her words and her actions are congruent.
A great example – Serena Williams was asked how she felt about the fact that Maria Sharapova makes more in advertising revenue than her despite Serena being the #1 Tennis player in the world:
“If they want to market someone who is white and blond, that’s their choice,” Williams said. “I have a lot of partners who are very happy to work with me. I can’t sit here and say I should be higher on the list because I have won more. I’m happy for [Sharapova], because she worked hard, too. There is enough at the table for everyone.”
The classy woman prioritizes kindness. She understands that kindness is the very foundation of class. The classy woman is driven by her heart and allows her heart to inform her decisions. The classy woman asks: how can I help? How can I contribute positively to this world and to others? The classy woman values being of service to others, and uses her gifts and privilege accordingly.
The classy woman knows her purpose and is driven to achieve it. She’s clear about her goals, her mission, her passions – and she gives herself fully to them. Failure means nothing to her. “No” doesn’t faze her. Obstacles and challenges just serve to fuel her inner fire. The classy woman cannot and will not be stopped. Watch out world!
The classy woman understands that less is more. This applies to both how she dresses, and how she engages with others. She picks her clothes and her words wisely – never revealing more than she needs to, to make her point.
Booty shorts and diatribes need not apply.
The classy woman is not desperate for attention, approval or validation. Nor is she arrogant, snobby or stuck-up. The classy woman has an unshakeable confidence that comes from a place of deep and genuine self-love. No ego, no grandiosity, nothing to prove – just a quiet, solid self-assurance.
The classy woman doesn’t expect others to take care of her. She takes care of her. She knows what her needs are, and she knows how to fill them. She doesn’t overextend herself, she says ‘No’ when that’s her truth, and she prioritizes her self-care routine that keeps her balanced and grounded.
The classy woman is interesting. She’s well-read. She’s curious and inquisitive and loves to learn. The classy woman remains teachable. She’s who you hope you end up sitting next to at a dinner party.