How I Help My Friend Overcome Grieve

Overcome Grieve


I was in high school when I met my friend Rita, aside from the fact that Rita is a very sweet person whom everyone will love to make friend with we also have so many things in common which make our bond stronger than ever. We use to sleep, eat and study together. Rita is a very happy person but she often breaks down when she remembers that her mother is a single mother and she always struggle day in day out to provide for her and her siblings needs.

Rita often pray mightily for miracle which will make them say bye bye to their financial crisis. She wants to be great for her mother sake, everything she does she put her mother first. I remember that Rita is often address as mummy girl because of her inability to decide without consulting her mother.

The unexpected happen on a bright Friday morning when my friend was called by her sister to rush home as their mother is very sick, I remember that I and Rita was heading to the library when she received the call but she had to drop all things with me and take the nearest bus home, on getting home she called me that she is in the hospital and they are hoping that she start getting better soon, I ask her if I can come down there but she insisted I stay that her mother younger sister is there to take care of them, although Rita mother sister is not well to do but she stood by them during their time in the hospital.

The unexpected moment happen on a beautiful morning while I was preparing for church I was in the bathroom when Rita call pop in but I couldn’t receive it so I had to return the call, when I did I couldn’t hear Rita voice instantly my heart told me something bad might have happen then I start calling back and when she eventually pick my call she broke down and told me she lost her mother, I was dumbfounded cause I know her mother is all she has, I couldn’t place what to say to her but I knew I have to patch myself up in order to be her strength during this difficult time. So I started thinking of great ideas which is needed to help her overcome this challenging period.  Here are few things I did to help Rita overcome this period:

    #1: I try to visit her often: I remember I made it a task to visit Rita house often. I was not far away from her. Often time I go to her house after lecture, talk to her about the school activities to engage her from overthinking. I spoke to her and we share views about life together. By visiting her always, she started seeing life in a different angel and as time passes Rita started having a little smile on her face.

    #2: I was not too clingy: I didn’t force her to talk when she doesn’t want to talk I try to give her an alone time to think about her mother. I wasn’t forcing my views on her instead I just try to make her happy and made her free her mind from any form of disturbance. I didn’t force my words of advice on her instead I try to make her smile naturally.

    #3: I show her how much I love her: During this moment Rita was able to see and experience how much she means to me. I remember sometimes I wake up at the middle of the night to send a condolence quotes and messages just to ease her pain because I know she might not be sleeping.

    #4: I paid a listening ear: I was always attentive to her words, I allow her say her heart desires instead of talking I became more attentive and she was able to open up to me because I was not being distractive.

    #5: I allow her cry on my shoulder: Often times Rita will hug me and cry, sometimes she will ask me how she will cope in life without her mother present. It was very hard for her but I was there for her.

    #6: I made her believe more in herself: I talk to her on how she can make this a stepping stone to success, I made her see that she can become great and make her mother proud. After the conversation she became more determine and she started believing more in herself.

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