Community//

How Getting Rejected 40 Times by the Same Company Taught Me The Secret to True Happiness

Fighting against flow of life led me to discover "The Law of Acceptance"

Think
about the last time you were drowning in your own tears, burying your
snotty nose in tissues, and curling up into a big, blubbering human
ball.

You
don’t even need to tell me what caused you to descend to such
low spirits – I already know.

Things
didn’t end up going your way, and feeling completely helpless and
hopeless, you collapsed into a corner and bawled your eyes out. “Am
I unlucky?” you wail with tears welling up in your eyes. “Is the
universe conspiring against me?”

I’m
right, am I not?

What if
I told you that even though life may throw a few unexpected wrench
your plans, the universe is actually working in your favor for your
greatest good. But instead of
expressing gratitude, you, instead, decide to throw a tantrum that
leaves you under a depressing dark cloud for days.

Talk
about biting the hand that feeds you!

There’s
a reason why there was a barricade between you and your desires.
There’s something far, far more superior for
that awaits you on a different avenue, and in order for you to
stumble upon this blissful path of happiness, you must submit to “The
Law of Acceptance” throughout life’s so-called “trials and
tribulations.”

It
look a long time for me to discover happiness through “The Law of
Acceptance.” You see, I once desperately
wanted a job at a popular digital company – let’s call it Agency A.
Agency A had immense brand recognition and a company culture that was
known for employing misfits and “cool weird” creatives – a
perfect fit for
someone as bizarre as I am.

I’ve
applied to Agency A nearly 40 times over the course of two years, and
out of those 40 times, I’ve managed to get 5 phone interviews, and
only 3 of
those screenings materialized into in-person interviews. Guess how
may of those in-person meetings led to an actual job offer?

Not
a single one!

Back
then, I fought tooth and nail against
life’s blockages against my dreams of working at Agency A. “Law of
Acceptance” my big hairy behind – I was going to get a job at
Agency A and no one was
going to stop me! I
even had the company name emblazoned across my vision board and I
wrote down the exact salary I
wanted at Agency A – keep that in mind.

I’m
pretty sure Life was getting sick of me at this point. “Good grief!
This girl won’t let up! We’re going to have to send in some
reinforcements,” Life, I’m sure, said in response to my
relentlessness.

That’s
when Life had me stumbling upon an employee of Agency A. It was, I
thought, a sudden stroke of luck! I gushed over how much I wanted to
work at Agency A and how lucky she was for getting a position at my
dream job. With a vacant, deadpan expression, the woman said, “It’s
a sweatshop over there. Why the hell would you want to work there?
People are running the hell out of there as quickly as they can.
Hell, I’m trying to get the hell out, too.”

She
seemed miserable – she’s not what I idealized a typical Agency A
employee would react to working at what I thought was greatest place on earth.

“And
the salary is deplorable,” she continued, revealing a tragically
low number – a number that was far, far lower than the desired
salary I wrote on my vision board.

My
heart sank. But my spirits didn’t deflate because of her horrific
review of Agency A, it deflated because I suddenly realized that this
chance encounter wasn’t my pathway to Agency A. 

It was, instead, a
rude awakening – a message from above – saying, “Hello! Earth
to you! That’s what we were trying to tell you all along! That’s why
you haven’t been able to get a job at Agency A! Agency A sucks and
the pay is far below what you deserve.”

I
suddenly remembered getting “bad vibes” when I visited Agency A’s
offices, but ignoring the red flags because I so desperately wanted
to work there.

Though
I didn’t completely
abandon my Agency A mission, I became more open-minded to other
companies that I overlooked – I put my eggs in more baskets.

I
finally began to let go. I stopped fighting the currents of life and
“accepted” where the ebbs and flow wanted to take me. I had to
trust that life had
something better in store for me.

Soon
after succumbing to “The Law of Acceptance,” I got a call from a
new company – let’s call it Better-Than-Agency-A. It had brand
recognition, it had the same “misfits are welcome” type of
company culture, and guess what, the pay was exactly what
I had written on my vision board!

I
ended up getting the job.

So
ask yourself, when things don’t go your way, how come you tend to see
it as a “curse” instead of a clear sign that a better path has
been carved for you? Why don’t you perceive it as Life (I’m using a capital L for personification) pulling you
away from someone or something that is less-than-beneficial for you?
Why cry, yell, and mope when something far more superior is in store?

Once
you start seeing these “obstacles” as a “blessings in
disguise,” your utopia awaits you – just as long as you stop
fighting life and succumb to “The Law of Acceptance.” That is
the secret to happiness.

The Thrive Global Community welcomes voices from many spheres. We publish pieces written by outside contributors with a wide range of opinions, which don’t necessarily reflect our own. Learn more or join us as a community member!
Share your comments below. Please read our commenting guidelines before posting. If you have a concern about a comment, report it here.

Sign up for the Thrive Global newsletter

Will be used in accordance with our privacy policy.

Thrive Global
People look for retreats for themselves, in the country, by the coast, or in the hills . . . There is nowhere that a person can find a more peaceful and trouble-free retreat than in his own mind. . . . So constantly give yourself this retreat, and renew yourself.

- MARCUS AURELIUS

We use cookies on our site to give you the best experience possible. By continuing to browse the site, you agree to this use. For more information on how we use cookies, see our Privacy Policy.