Despite being surrounded by muck and dirt a lotus blooms into a magnificently beautiful flower. Perhaps our life journeys are meant to be like that, surrounded by tough conditions and triumphing despite or is it because of adversity. When I think of Tina Turner’s journey of being an abused wife restarting life with less than a dollar in her pocket to becoming one of the greatest singers of all times, I am convinced that anyone can turn their life around.
I restarted my life with 750 rupees(less than 15 dollars) in my bank account but actually I had billions of dollars because at least I was alive and could make something of my life. I could have been negative and cynical and take on the role of playing a victim and perfected it to last me an entire lifetime. But I changed the narrative from victim to victor.
Now, that is a very tough narrative to change, but the journey and the destinations along the way make it worth it.When my divorce petition was served on me I was jobless, broke and heartbroken. I slowly transitioned from there, with the help of strangers,friends,well-wishers,supporters to getting a job to put the food on the table to getting a job in America and earning enough to drive a car and travelling abroad on holidays. Somewhere along the way I set up India’s first support group-360 degrees back to life-to provide non-judgmental support to those going through a divorce. This is because divorce in India is extremely stigmatized and leads to ostracism and in extreme cases to taking one’s own life because of the pressures of being a divorcee. One of my friends did exactly that and left us all heartbroken when she hung herself at the age of around 33. What a life she could have had if……It’s the IF which is a hotbed of regrets but also of opportunities. It’s when you take the opportunities that you substitute the regrets with a brand new life of your own creation. 360 degrees back to life turned around people’s lives and it propelled me to write my first book. Never in my dreams could I have imagined that I would be writing and sharing my experiences with the world.
It’s when you start writing that you realize it’s like meditation and keeps you moving forward to accomplish more to add more to your life and the world’s. I studied law and started practicing as a Family lawyer in the Family Court in Mumbai. During the course of my practice I noticed that the litigants were like mushrooms-everyone kept them in the dark and fed them garbage-and nothing had changed during the course of 15 years since I had started fighting my divorce case. So I wracked my brains for around two years and decide to change the way law is discussed with litigants by launching India’s first legal app-DIVORCEKART.
The journey makes it worth it
Divorcekart is the worlds and India’s first legal app that focusses on answering your legal queries regarding divorce INSTANTLY. Usually when one is hit by a panic attack about a bad marriage or a divorce case already pending in court, you want an immediate cost effective legal solution at the click of a button– the app provides immediate legal solutions, answers and guidance about the court procedures, without having to wait interminably for a lawyer’s appointment or get half-baked answers from your friends and relatives. The client-lawyer privilege continues and no one need know about your personal family issues, as the app not only provides confidentiality but also anonymity to you as a client who does not want to discuss his/her personal marital issues with one and all. Besides, who wants to spend time going to a lawyer when you can get all the comforts of a lawyer at the click of a button in your own living room. It’s a brave attempt to bring about a change.
But it’s only through bravery, courage and doing something rather than complaining that you can remain positive and be a rainmaker. Making a change in your life and ultimately someone else’s is what keep you focused on adopting a positive outlook rather than take the initially easy path of negativity which ultimately leads to failure and ruin.
A divorce is not the end of the road but rather is a fork in the road, and the positive choice may actually lead to the path of being British Royalty – Ask Meghan Markle