By Cailyn Cox
Beyoncé is one of those celebrities that is not only supremely talented (and she has more awards than we care to count to prove it) but also well-liked because she is an inspiration. She is also a mother, and it is a role that she takes very seriously, it’s also a role that has significantly changed her life. And she is like an open book when it comes to sharing these changes with the world.
Beyoncé has spoken about how she was initially afraid to give birth, her emotions after experiencing a loss, and her dreams for her children (which are more normal than most people would expect). Beyoncé and Jay Z parent as a team, and he is just as hands-on when it comes to changing diapers and being involved in their children’s lives as she is. The world has seen a new side to them as they take on the roles of mom and dad. It’s also endeared them to a lot of people because, at the end of the day, they are like every other parent.
Their children may be three of the luckiest kids in the world to have such dedicated and loving parents, and below are 20 times Beyoncé was actually more relatable than anyone thought she could be.
Although giving birth is one of the most natural things in the world, if you really think about it, and the pain often associated with it, then it can be a daunting thing. Before Beyoncé became a mother, she, like so many moms-to-be, was apprehensive.
“Giving birth was one of my biggest [concerns] and having Blue forced me to face it,” she told Shape magazine (via E! News) in 2013. “And now I recognize the strength I have. She teaches me to focus on the things that truly matter, like family, and to pay attention to each moment, because they go by so quickly.”
Expectant parents may have hopes and dreams for their little ones, they may also want a specific gender, have plans for a certain name, and hope their baby gets its daddy’s nose and it’s mother’s complexion. It’s normal to want certain things, but at the end of the day, none of these things matter and all that does is having a healthy child.
In an interview with Good Morning America (via Vogue) in 2013, Beyoncé spoke about Blue Ivy and what she wanted for her. “I am very protective,” she said. “I just want to make sure that she can have a healthy, safe, normal life. In the back of my mind, she’s my priority…”
There are some celebrity moms who are not relatable; take Gwyneth Paltrow for example, who tries hard to relate to (as she puts it) the “common” woman, but to me, her statements are often way off the mark. But Beyoncé is the complete opposite and she seems to have genuine respect for other moms.
“I have so much admiration for women who are mothers, who balance family and work,” she told Cosmopolitan UK in 2011. “I see them and I have this word in my head — respect. I also look to learn. I see these women and I think, ‘Yes, it can be balanced, it can all work out.’ I do believe that it’s possible to have it all — work… babies. It’s all a question of being very organized. That’s what I’m getting my head around.”
It’s easy to forget who you were before you became a parent. And sometimes your identity can merge with your role as a mother, and you find it hard to separate the two, and then, sort of feel as though you have lost yourself. Beyoncé understands this, and it seems she’s been there, but also encourages us to recognize when it’s happening.
“I’m enjoying being a mother,” she said, according to E! News. “It’s a little strange, but it’s important that you don’t lose yourself and you still have your own passions. And I’m back to work, I’m back to business.”
Beyoncé is loved by millions of fans, has an impressive net worth, and is a talented singer and dancer, but the role she values the most is being a mother to her children, who are her whole world. After giving birth to her first child, Blue Ivy, she spoke about the feelings of love and pride that she had experienced, and she did this in an interview with Garage magazine (via Us Weekly) in 2016.
“Out of everything I’ve accomplished, my proudest moment, hands down, was when I gave birth to my daughter Blue,” she said. If ever there was a time when Beyoncé was relatable, it’s with this comment.
Many women tend to forget about their partner after becoming a mother. It’s not that they love them any less, but they often find they don’t have the time or the energy to be together the way they used to, before they had children. It’s easy to make a partner feel like they have been replaced because, in many mom’s minds, their children need their constant attention, but, Beyoncé reminds us all that you need to appreciate the person who you share your life with.
That, and parenting is a team effort.
“Actually, [Jay-Z] is very good,” she said on Anderson Live (via Huffington Post) of his role with their daughter, Blue Ivy. “We both [change diapers]. I love changing diapers, I love it. I love every moment of it, it’s so beautiful. I love it all.”
Beyoncé takes her role as a mother seriously, and after giving birth she felt that she had “purpose.” She spoke about this in an interview with Anderson Cooper for his show, Anderson Live, in 2012, and explained how she got a sense of clarity about life after becoming a mom.
“I realized why I was born and more than anything, all of the things I want to pass onto my child and the best way of doing that is not by preaching or telling her but showing her by example,” she said, E! News reports. The most interesting piece of information in her quote is how she plans on being a good person, so that she can pass on these lessons to her children and raise well-rounded individuals.
You never truly understand love until you have a child. We hear this statement all the time, and perhaps it keeps getting repeated because it is true for so many parents, and certainly true for Beyoncé.
The singer spoke about her pregnancy with Blue Ivy in a 2013 interview with Vogue, and explained how when she met her daughter, it was love at first sight. “I felt very maternal around eight months, and I thought I couldn’t become any more until I saw the baby,” she said. “But it happened during my labor because I had a very strong connection with my child…”
When Beyoncé and Jay Z were ready to announce the pregnancy of their twins to the world, she chose to do so with a sweet message which she posted on social media. But it is the wording of this message that makes it stand out, and Beyoncé conveyed a message that showed her excitement, but was also humble.
“We would like to share our love and happiness. We have been blessed two times over,” she wrote. “We are incredibly grateful that our family will be growing by two, and we thank you for your well wishes.”
Beyoncé has made no-secret that her children have changed her life in more ways than one, but she’s not just a mother, but also a woman. She is a feminist, and she is all about girl power, reminding other women that in this world they can be whatever they choose to be.
Explaining the outdated notions of what a woman can and cannot be, especially when it comes to their bodies, she told Out magazine, “Women are so much more than that.” And the roles and titles that you can have do not need to be limited, because she notes, “You can be a businesswoman, a mother, an artist, and a feminist, whatever you want to be,” as well as being free.
There is so much that changes after becoming a parent, but one of the more pleasant, although often unexpected changes to happen, is how a woman’s confidence can improve. After giving birth you realize that you can do anything.
“My daughter introduced me to myself,” Beyoncé told Oprah Winfrey (viaToday). The singer also went on to discuss their bond, saying, “You know, my mother and I are so close, and I always prayed that I would have that type of relationship with my daughter. And she’s still a baby, but the connection I had with her when I was giving birth was something that I’ve never felt before.”
Beyoncé is a woman who has enjoyed an extremely successful path (and it doesn’t seem to be slowing down anytime soon) but of all the things she has accomplished and all the experiences she has had, it was motherhood that made her feel as though she had a real purpose.
“I just adore being a mother, hearing [Blue Ivy] say ‘Mama’ and call me when she needs something. It makes me feel like I have a real purpose here,” she told Shape magazine (via E! News). Sometimes, women can feel the opposite way, and feel as though they’ve lost their identity, but let this serve as a reminder that there is always a way to get that back.
Beyoncé has a very close relationship with her own family, most notably her mom, Tina Lawson, so it has been clear that family is something she has always valued. But since she and Jay Z have started their own family, Beyoncé felt family took on a different meaning.
“I feel like I have something that has grounded me so much more,” she told Vogue. “Family has always been important. I’ve always had my mother and my father and my husband, but it’s just….life is so much more than…it’s not defined by any of this [fame and money].”
Considering who Beyoncé is, and how she makes up half of a serious power couple, it would be easy to imagine her wanting all these un-relatable things for her children. But she is more like most moms than people realize because what she wants is for her little ones to live a normal life. And she really does mean normal.
“At some point, it’s very important to me that my daughter is able to experience life and run through the sprinklers and have slumber parties and trust and live and do all the things that any child should be able to do,” she told Vogue.
Beyoncé is filled with wisdom, and her thoughts on motherhood and raising children are some of the most quotable celebrity comments. In 2016, she gave us another memorable quote in an interview with Elle, when she explained her hopes for her children and their future happiness and health. “I think just like any mother, I just want my child to be happy and healthy and have the opportunity to realize her dreams,” she explained.
Keeping this comment in mind, we see just how alike Bey is to most mothers because we all want the same things for our kids.
You may not have thought that Beyoncé is a woman who is relatable because her life seems so glamorous, but if you think of who she is, without the stardom, you realize she is a regular person who has ups and downs, and who has experienced pain and loss in her life. But because of Beyoncé ’s fame, she has also been given a platform, and she has used it to discuss pregnancy loss and remind women they are not alone.
“About two years ago, I was pregnant for the first time. And I heard the heartbeat, which was the most beautiful music I ever heard in my life,” she said in her HBO documentary, Life Is But a Dream (via Us Weekly). “I flew back to New York to get my checkup — and no heartbeat.” She was left heartbroken and referred to her loss as the “saddest thing” she had ever been through.
Since becoming a mother, Beyoncé’s life has changed in many ways, and she told Good Morning America in 2013 (via Vogue), that after giving birth to her firstborn, Blue Ivy, her life was “completely different.”
But these changes are something that Beyoncé embraces, as she explained: “I feel really, really just lucky that I can still do what I love, and now have a way bigger meaning. And that’s to be her mother.” She has become a very dedicated mother, who it seems never passes up the opportunity to spend quality time with her children — she often posts sweet photos of herself and Blue.
Pregnancy is different for every woman, and although some love the experience, others have complications or feel uncomfortable and cannot wait for it to be over. Beyoncé definitely falls into the first category, and her pregnancy has brought her the people who mean the most to her, her daughter Blue Ivy, and later, twins Sir and Rumi.
“Being pregnant was very much like falling in love. You are so open, Beyoncé said in the HBO documentary, Life is But a Dream (via Us Weekly). “You are so overjoyed. There’s no words that can express having a baby growing inside of you, so of course, you want to scream it out and tell everyone.”
What people can admire about Beyoncé is that she doesn’t sugarcoat her journey into parenthood. Sure, there are many aspects of it which are amazing, and she has made that clear from the interviews she has given, in which she has discussed her family. But she is also real, and an example of this can be noted in her comments about the pain of childbirth.
She got candid in an interview with Elle, when discussing pain, and used childbirth as an example of how overcoming pain resulted in something beautiful. “Everyone experiences pain, but sometimes you need to be uncomfortable to transform,” Beyoncé shared. “Pain is not pretty, but I wasn’t able to hold my daughter in my arms until I experienced the pain of childbirth!”
Beyoncé is one of the most loved people in the world and has the admiration and respect of millions of fans. But the real love in her life comes in the form of her family, and she appreciates the bond she has with her daughter.
“The best thing about having a daughter is having a true legacy,” she said, according to The Guardian. “The word ‘love’ means something completely different now.” In an interview with Vogue, Beyoncé has also referred to Blue Ivy as her “best friend.” The two appear to be very close, and seeing photos and videos of their time together is often heartwarming.
Originally published on Moms.com.
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