It took me a divorce and many years of incredible patience to get pregnant. And then, miraculously, I discovered I was going to be a mom.
It was the happiest and at the same time the scariest day of my life. “How am I going to manage this? I don’t even have enough time and energy for the life I’m currently living. How on earth am I going to add a baby into this schedule?” were the thoughts going through my mind.
You must understand that I was a typical ex-corporate executive, building her own business, and raised in a family where ‘working hard’ prevailed. I think if you really look at it closely, I could have been called a ‘workaholic’. Eventhough I suffered multiple burnouts already at a very young age, without working hard, I didn’t feel complete.
So, at that unforgettable day in my life, I took a couple of decisions.
I waited so long for this cherished wish of becoming a mom, that I committed to myself to be there for my baby – no matter what. I realized that I had to turn my life around and needed to build my business in a way that would free me up, save me energy, and let me be the mom I wanted to be.
This was the start of my #WorkLessBeMore philosophy. I started to look for ways to train my mind in different ways. I started to meditate more. I started to look for methods to change my beliefs on a subliminal level.
Being a small business owner at the time, I started to think like a CEO. I understood that for achieving similar or better results, I needed to leverage other people’s time and skills.
And so I did.
The very moment my daughter Luna was born, she looked me in the eyes, saying ‘Here I am.’ Although it sounds cliché – which it is – it was the most blissful moment in my life. There’s nothing, I repeat NOTHING, in this world that gave me the same overwhelm of unconditional love as looking in the eyes of my little baby. At age 41 I felt complete and humble being able to call myself ‘mom’.
It was also in that same moment that I decided to be very conscious in how we were going to raise this beautiful girl. From then onwards, we transformed our business completely and now work with a team that executes the major part of our tasks. We transformed our lives and have put family as priority number 1. We transformed ourselves by creating new connections in our brains, such as ‘We have plenty of time to do everything we love ‘, ‘We live in the present moment.’, ‘Easy does it.’, ‘We manifest whatever we want effortlessly’. We live a conscious life – where healthy lifestyle, travel and memorable experiences prevail.
As a mom, I work around my daughter’s schedule. By default, I count on way less hours per week than I eventually have. That way, I don’t stress out if I can’t complete the tasks I set myself to. I am a strong believer in the fact that if we become better as human beings, things come our way a lot easier.
I now refuse to believe that we need to work hard to get there. Or that we need to pay a price. It’s the same effort to think ‘Easy does it.’ So why suffer if it can be pleasant?
To other moms, I’d love to say this:
Get your priorities straight. Change your beliefs in a permanent way. Build a team around you that executes 80% of your tasks. Focus on the 20% that bring you the results. Change direction if you can’t turn what you’re currently doing into something where you can take yourself out of the equation. And dedicate devoted time to your kids, as the greatest gift we can give them, is our time and attention.