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How a Horrible Accident Led Me to Live My Life With More Gratitude

Don't take the little things for granted.

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There are some things you learn when you get run over by a freight truck.

It was a beautiful fall day and I had just opened up a great new chapter in my life: I was a thirty-six-year-old newlywed with a fulfilling job where I knew I was making a difference in kids’ lives, and my husband and I were doing triathlons together and talking about starting a family. Things were finally going according to plan—and then the plan got set on fire, courtesy of an impatient driver who blew a stop sign.

But you learn.

Mostly, you learn how to be grateful for every tiny thing you probably took for granted before. You spend a lot of time lying down in hospital beds with nothing but your thoughts, and that can go one of two ways: You can drown in your own sorrow (which I did for some time), or you can realize that even with the pain, the permanent disfigurement, the nightmares, and the limitations, life is still not only worthwhile but beautiful.

Don’t get me wrong: I would rather have learned that lesson without getting flattened on the street, but that’s how it went.

All my life, I’d defined myself as an athlete—a cyclist, mostly, considering that my dad owned a bike shop and I’d practically grown up there learning about bike mechanics. I wasn’t even four when I got on my first bike. In my twenties, I’d already had to deal with significant health challenges that affected my competitive abilities.

But I could not have pictured the absolute derailment of my life that was to come, and I could not have imagined getting through it and smiling at the end of it all. In the thick of it, there were many days and nights when I wished I had just died on the road rather than endure the constant daily pain and humiliation of a body that could no longer function without machinery and tubes and bags.

When the truck that blew the stoplight ran over my lower body with front and back tires, it also dragged me across the pavement. As I bled out in the street, nearby strangers surrounded. A former EMT myself, I knew had to stay awake. “I’ve just been reconnected with my soulmate,” I told the medic. “We want to have a baby. I can’t die now. Please don’t let me die.”

I spent five weeks in a coma and had 29 surgeries. But I survived, and despite losing my job and suffering from PTSD, I began to focus on everyone who helped to save my life.

What pulled me out of it were those heroes: more than two hundred people who had collaborated to save my life. So many people teamed up just so I could live to see another sunset, take another walk with my dog, or plant another garden.

The path back to an active life was fraught with difficulties and setbacks, some of which are permanent, but along the way I learned to keep my focus on gratitude and live my life accordingly—not only feeling thankful, but acting on my thankfulness. The more I found ways to give back, the better I felt.

I decided to run again.

Since the trauma, I have run 50 races and completed 40 triathlons, including 4 half-Ironman events (1.2-mile swim, 56-mile bike ride, 13.1-mile run). I dedicate my race medals to my heroes, including the multitude of medical staff that aided in my survival.

Now I’m ready to share my journey in the hope that it will encourage others to take that first step forward. We’re all connected in this world, and it’s our job to look out for one another. Just as many people have looked out for me, I hope I can now be a light for people who are seeking one.

Colleen Kelly Alexander, author of the forthcoming book, GRATITUDE IN MOTION (Center Street, January 16, 2018), is a lifelong athlete and motivational speaker. With her indomitable spirit and amazing story of survival, Colleen teaches others how to aim higher, be stronger, and use adversity as a catalyst to make themselves and the world better. She was the executive director of the Common Ground Youth Center in Vermont for eight years, and a regional program manager for PeaceJam, where Nobel Peace Prize laureates mentor youth. She has also worked for, volunteered for, and is heavily involved with the Red Cross. She lives in a New England coastal town with her husband and their three dogs and cat. Find out more at Colleenkellyalexander.com, Facebook/ColleenKellyA or on Twitter @ColleenKellyAl.

Jenna Glatzer (www.jennaglatzer.com) is the author or ghost- writer of twenty-nine books, including Celine Dion’s authorized biography and The Marilyn Monroe Treasures. She and her daughter live in New York.

Adapted from the book GRATITUDE IN MOTION by Colleen Kelly Alexander. Copyright (c) Colleen Kelly Alexander
by Center Street. Reprinted with permission of Hachette Book Group, New
York, NY. All rights reserved. 

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