Helping Your Children Face Their Fears

How to put monsters and fears to sleep once and for all!

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All kids experience fear because fear is attached to the ‘unknown’ and when we are little the whole world is ‘unknown‘. Let’s guide them to face their childhood fears head-on, and develop the courage they need to live the best life possible. We certainly need to help them avoid the habit of thinking that if something is ‘unknown’ it means it is bad.

Do your children have fears that you’re having trouble helping them overcome?

Here are some good questions to initiative playful constructive conversation with them. These questions should be asked in a way that opens up the conversation. Below are some examples:

  1. What makes you happy?
  2. What is your favourite thing to do? Why?
  3. What scares you? Why?

Using a variety of questions in your conversations will allow the child to speak freely without thinking there is a problem.

We also suggest that you share your own answers to the above questions, and make this a conversation.

Your children love learning more about you!

What are the most common fears for children, and what is a quick smart suggestion to help our little ones?

  • The Dark
  • Monsters
  • The Weather
  • Bad Dreams
  • Strangers
  • Change
  • Doctors and Dentists
  • Loud Noises

I used my own experience with my young daughter to develop a story which helps children to overcome their fears and discover the courage in themselves.

The particular book was designed, with the help of certified child psychologists, and focuses on the idea of the ‘unknown’ being the source of fear. It is a magical story, showcasing your own child as the main hero overcoming fears of the unknown, in a fun, creative and daring way! Friends help each other to feel courageous and monsters end up becoming our best friends!

And always remember, ever fear they overcome is a cause for small celebration and an opportunity to verbally congratulate their bravery.

Let’s raise the next generation of courageous little heroes!

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