Have you listened to your heart lately?

You know more than you think.

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The first painting I've been able to do since the fire. From my heart to yours.

I have.

Last month, when millions of women took to the streets to stand up for what they believed in, My Heart urged me to sit down on the couch and stay home.

The Voice In My Head was incredulous.



But My Heart understood that ever since the fires terrorized our magical little town of Ojai, I’ve been shaken to the core.

Though deeply grateful for my own blessings, I feel the sorrow of all those less fortunate and the primal fear of every living creature whose life was threatened by the fire.

My Head told me to “GET OVER IT.”

Me and my Pussy Hat at the Women’s March.

But my Heart gave me permission to wrap myself up in a cozy blanket of peace and quiet so I could be part of the Women’s March in a way that felt good to me.

Be your own activist.

How many times a day do you say “yes” to things that you wish you could say “no” to?

How many of your sentences begin with “I should” or “I have to?”

Listen, I’m not advocating selfishness as a lifestyle but I am learning that the world won’t end if I make myself a priority.

In fact, the more compassionate, loving care we give to ourselves, the more we have to give to others. And the world.

Have a heart-to-heart with yourself.

If, like so many of us, you were programmed to please others before yourself, it’s hard to even know how you feel.

Here’s a little something that works for me:Take a few minutes to yourself, somewhere quiet, preferably in nature. (It helps you get grounded.)

Close your eyes and ask your Heart, “Does this feel right to you?” Or “What would bring you peace?” Or joy? (Or whatever words feel right to you.)

The more you ask, the more your Heart will have to say to you.

And instead of always thinking about what you should do, you’ll find yourself feeling into what you want to do.

Self-love is the answer.

Even if you didn’t live through a fire, just living through these times is enough to burn anyone out.

Instead of pushing ourselves to do more, I say push the pause button. And feel more.

By feeling our fragility, we find our strength.

By surrendering to our fears, we become fierce.

By giving ourselves time To Be, we know what To Do.

If this speaks to your heart, please share.

With soaring love,

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