Do you ever find yourself lying in bed at night with your head spinning, struggling to fall asleep? Here is a simple nightly ritual that may just help you stop the spin and get the rest you need.
First, we need to start by understanding why our brain spins. Why do we immediately flip to the next chapter in a book or hit “Next Episode” on Netflix? Suspense. The need to know what happens next.
Suspense is generated by uncertainty. Writers and TV producers understand that if they leave us hanging, we will feel a need come back to find out what happens. In our mind, what we call worry is often uncertainty; our brain, trying to process our concerns about what will happen in a certain dynamic, situation, or circumstance.
So how do we stop the spin? When your mind is spinning, it is trying to process a question. A question means there is a piece of information missing. In many cases, we cannot immediately answer our questions, but what we can do, is commit to a follow up step.
Steps to deal with Uncertainty and Spin:
Uncertainty/Question: Is my boss upset with me for the report I sent yesterday?
Missing Information: My boss’s opinion of my work.
Follow up Action: Tomorrow at 9am, I will email or call my boss to get his/her feedback on the report.
Act: 9am you email or call your boss.
Does this resolve the problem or concern? No, of course not, but it commits to an action to resolve the problem or answer the question, freeing your mind to stop processing it as uncertainty and allowing your mind to rest.
Nothing is certain, but the enemy of uncertainty is awareness; planning, preparation and action. All we can do is take steps to try to manage the uncertainty.