Long-term success is much about what you give up as what you gain.
Every human brain has a built-in capacity to become, over time, what we demand of it.
Whatever you want in life, you can become if you want it bad enough. Once you have a WHY, you will find a HOW!
People have so much they can offer the world but they are afraid to even try.They feel inadequate.
Millions of people are still living in their comfort zones because they think a lot can go wrong.
The good news is, you don’t have to be perfect to start or achieve what you want in life.
“Few of our own failures are fatal,” economist and Financial Times columnist Tim Harford writes in his new book, Adapt: Why Success Always Starts With Failure.
According to Adapt, “success comes through rapidly fixing our mistakes rather than getting things right first time.”
If you have ever failed in the past but never gave up, you are stronger than you think. If you have failed recently and are considering giving up, don’t.
The obstacle is definitely the way.
There will always be a way out. You just haven’t found it yet. Keep on trying. Find out why and how you got stuck, and dig yourself out of the temporary setback.
Your life should have more value than just living comfortably.
What does it mean to really live? Deep down, you already have a sense of the direction where this answer lies for you.
Give up everything holding you back in life and live for what truly matters.
Start paying attention to the bad habits of your life you should let go to achieve anything worthwhile.
Stop pursuing too many goals
“One of the greatest resources people cannot mobilize themselves is that they try to accomplish great things. Most worthwhile achievements are the result of many little things done in a single direction.” — Nido Qubein
You can master anything. Stop trying to do everything.
It is easy to get excited with goals and try to take on too much but if you do, you’ll be spending your energy all over the place.
The principle of success is focus. It is what makes the difference between those who are successful and those who are not, regardless of how much talent, resource and energy that they have.
The most accomplished and well known people in history were known for somethin uniqe to them. Einstein pursued the theory of relativity like his whole life depended on it.
Relativity is one of the most famous scientific theories of the 20th century. Mozart was incredibly passionate about music.
He was the very best for many generations before and after him. Even today, is there a second musician who could match his genius?
Spend most of your time on the right things and the rest takes care of itself. It’s not enough to just work hard.
Hard work is not necesarily a bad thing. But hard work can be a waste of your life when it’s thrown at the wrong things.
Decide what is good for you in the long term, and pursue it with all you’ve got.
Each time you have something extra to do or an additional goal to pursue, you further split your power.
You fear to even try
“No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.” — Tony Robbins
“You miss 100 percent of the shots you don’t take.” Wayne Gretzky could not have said that any better.
You can only make progress if you take a step.Overcoming the fear of failing is the first step towards success. Start confronting your fears today.
Fear is a habit, so is self-pity, defeat, anxiety, despair, hopelessness and resignation. You can eliminate all of these negative habits with two simple resolves,” I can! and I will!”
Take even the most basic step towards what you have to do. Never miss an opportunity to try. Show up as many times as you can. Share your best work even if it’s not perfect.
Dale Carnegie once said “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.
You give up too soon
“I have a motto on my bedroom wall: ‘Obstacles are what you see when you take your eye off the goal.’ Giving up is not my style. I just want to do something that’s worthwhile”. — Chris Burke
How persistent are you about pursuing your dreams and goals in life?
One of the most important secrets of success is learning to conquer your doubts.
Most of us give up on our passion too soon. Every successful person you know today has a perseverance story to share.
There is probably no better example of persistence than the story of Abraham Lincoln.
He failed in business at 21, lost a legislative race at age 22, failed in business again at 24 and lost a congressional race when he was 34.
At 45 he lost a senatorial race. And he failed in an attempt to become Vice President when he was 47.
But he was finally elected President of the United States at age 52.
Lincoln never quit.
He could have given up after several attempts but pursued his ambition to assume the highest office in America.
There is no substitute for persistence. As long as you are still actively trying after every failure, you have not failed yet.
“Commitment in the face of conflict produces character.” ~Unknown
By all means, keep moving.
If you don’t keep going, you’ll never know how far you could have gone.
If you do keep going, well, it’s like this quote: “Shoot for the moon, for even if you miss you’ll land among the stars.”
You are constantly telling yourself it can’t be done
“The mind is the limit. As long as the mind can envision the fact that you can do something, you can do it, as long as you really believe 100 percent.” — Arnold Schwarzenegger
If you don’t believe in what you do, you will give up at some point. If you have no reason to believe it’s possible to achieve a goal, all the effort you are putting into it will be wasted.
You mind’s unconscious beliefs plays a significant role in the amount of effort you put into your life’s work. If you don’t see a successful outcome, you won’t push yourself further to get there.
Your progress depends on your decision to try knowing that you will overcome your failures and rise above them.
Break your big goal into actionable steps and focus on one step at a time.
If you’re having trouble believing you can achieve your most important goal, instead of focusing it, focus on a stepping stone goal you can believe in right now. That one step you need to push yourself further.
The closer your goal is to where you actually are today, the easier it will be to believe in it. Keep setting goals you are able to believe in, and when you look back, you’ll be amazed at how far you’ve come.
Give up the life of endless excuses
“People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives.” — J. Michael Straczynski
There will always be a reason why it can’t be done. People constantly explain away why they couldn’t, shouldn’t, didn’t, or simply wouldn’t do something.
When you make excuses, you are simply saying, “I’m not in control.”
But guess what — you are the only person who is fully in control of your actions and decisions in the world.
Making excuses robs you of your personal power.
People make excuses because of the fear of the unknown. Others are just afraid of change, rejection and embarrassment.
Fear locks you in your comfort zone.
And nothing magical or remarkable happens in your safe zone.You can stop making excuses if you learn how to eliminate all traces of fear from your life.
The next time you experience a setback, don’t make an excuse. See it as a challenge, learn from it and move on.
Excuses are distractions, and they reduce your confidence and self-belief.
You don’t want that — especially when you still have a lot to show the world.
Own your life; no one else is going to do it for you.
You think you have no talent
“Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not: nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not: the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.” — Calvin Coolidge
What others think about you is none of your business. What do you think about yourself? Choose to live boldly and express your authentic self.
There are no hidden talents. The reality is often those at the top simply spent more time and deliberate practice on their chosen fields — plus experienced some luck along the way as well.
Everyone has the potential to be amazing at something.
People have strengths and weaknesses in the different functions and capacities of the brain.
It takes practice. A lot of it to be amazing at what you do. One of greatest impediment to creativity is our impatience.
The almost inevitable desire to see results in the shortest possible time can kill your desire to create anything worthwhile. What you lack is confidence in your abilities to do better.
Follow your curiosity and find yourself in the process. You will be amazed at what you discover about what you can do and what comes easily to you.
The story of your life isn’t written yet… you just have to start writing it. You’re not without talent, you’re without direction.
Learn a new way to see things. Go. Do. Live.
You’re afraid of being rejected or criticized
“I don’t really have disappointments, because I build myself up for rejection.” — Nicholas Hoult
Rejection is inevitable if you intend to do anything original.
The fear of it creates a very damaging pattern of behavior that can stop you from starting something new.
Once you begin to feel that you are not good enough, you can never push past rejection to create your life’s work.
Being creative is about making fresh connections so that we see things in new ways and from different perspectives. You can benefit a lot from feedback to improve your idea or project.
Don’t take rejection personal
Learn from your criticisms and focus on making your work better than your first iteration. A rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of meaning.
You’re afraid your ideas are not good enough
“And above all things, never think that you’re not good enough yourself. A man should never think that. My belief is that in life people will take you at your own reckoning. “ — Isaac Asimov
Millions of people are trapped in the “not good enough” mindset. You’re afraid there’s no market for your work, and therefore no point in pursuing it.
Others are constantly beating themselves up and thinking that whatever they intend to create won’t be good enough or what they’ve created is not worthy to be shared.
Don’t allow the desire for perfection keep you from launching, publishing or hitting send.
Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear explains:
“Perfection is the death of all good things, perfection is the death of pleasure, it’s the death of productivity, it’s the death of efficiency, it’s the death of joy.Perfection is just a bludgeon that goes around murdering everything good.”
Forget about all the reasons why you shouldn’t launch or start your life’s work, and focus on the one reason why people should know about it. If you genuinely believe in what you want to do, find a way to build it, create it, ship it or simply get it out. If it moves you toward your ultimate potential, do it.
Choose to do better
“To achieve anything great or worthwhile, you must resolve, no matter what life hands you, to carry on, for there is nothing that can stop you from achieving the greatness for which you were created. Do not let anything stand in the way of you achieving your goals this year and every year!” — Brian Tracy
Never whine about your lack of skills or weaknesses.
Never use a lack of know-how as an excuse for not being able to achieve a goal.
If you don’t know how, learn how.
If you’re going to get anywhere in life, you must assume 100% responsibility for your choices.
Choose yourself today and start taking action. You will do something incredible with your life if you embrace these mindsets.
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Originally published at medium.com.