Getting What you Want

Why hope is not a strategy

I typically teach what I need to keep working on myself and this week has been all about discipline and courage. 

My personal motto is to let it be easy and go with the flow for anything in my life; work, fun, relationships, you name it. 

BUT LET ME BE CLEAR – that doesn’t mean you just sit back and wait for it to happen. That’s total self sabotage. ❌

It’s going to take you fighting for it! You’ve gotta show the universe that you’re ready to play. You have to prove this to yourself, and most importantly, you have to take a stand for yourself, even on the days that it’s that last thing you want to do. 

Without discipline, you’re running on a strategy of HOPE, and unfortunately that’s not a strategy. 

No matter how bad you want something, you can’t just “will” it to happen if you’re not willing to fight for it. If that were the case, we would all have everything we want, be completely fulfilled and have no drama or conflict in our lives. 

Without discipline you also leave room for excuses to sneak in, and you open the door to let your inner doubts speak up and talk you out of that thing you need to be doing.

Now, it’s okay once in a while to just do nothing and relax, but be careful – once you let your discipline slip, it’s going to be harder and harder to get it back. 

It’s not always going to be fun or comfortable. There will be days you don’t wanna do anything, and there will be times your mind is doing a scary good job of talking you out of it…

….your routine 

….your goals for the day

….making that call

….finishing that hike

….asking for help

….acting on your big idea

Be aware of what’s going on in your head and decide where to focus your energy and decide to fight for what you want!

Are you letting yourself off the hook for the day because you seriously need some R&R, or is this a sneaky voice of doubt that’s manipulating you into self sabotage? 

You might have to kick and scream your way through it, but I promise you, you will feel so much better than if you blow that thing off and then end up guilting and shaming yourself about it. 

Be disciplined, courageous and intentional with your choices and actions and you can have it all. You have to show up for your self even on those days that you just wanna give up!

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