Earlier today, I was really fed up.
I had a few things take place at once:
And, this all happened within 30–45 minutes. It felt, for a moment (or more like an hour) crushing. I felt my temper flare, I lashed out — a tiny bit — and quickly apologized. Apologizing felt worse because I was still in a low place — and it made me feel like I made a mistake — and that only compounded the negative feelings I was experiencing.
All of this from a guy who defines himself as happy and fulfilled; there’s the rub: defining myself, as if I’m not subject to emotional fluctuations, feeling overwhelmed, and making mistakes.
Instead of trusting my path, honoring my journey, and embracing life’s challenges with a smile on my face, I gave in. I felt I was “off” because these things were happening, and I thought something was wrong with me.
I reached out to a trusted friend, Angie Johnsey, whom you’ve probably heard me talk about before. She said something super simple, and it really resonated with me: “I’ve learned to put anything that starts to matter too much right out of my head.”
This is a lesson I already knew, but today I needed the reminder. She’s a wise woman, a mentor, and a friend. So, thank you Angie.
Oh, so you might be wondering what happened since (in just a handful of hours since I turned around my attitude):
My lesson — and the lesson I wish to transmit for you today — is to take it easy. Relax. It’s all good.
When life hits you a mile a minute, go for the ride. Take a peek from another perspective, even if only for a moment; you may find there’s another way to see things, and as you do, things will change.
Your perspective dictates your reality. You are in charge, no matter how it might feel.
My solution: I followed love, and I went to play with my son. I bounced around like a kid in an indoor playground, looked at other kids playing, laughed with them, and chilled out for awhile.
I emerged anew. And so will you!
Here’s to chillin’ out, feeling your best, and switching your perspective when you don’t. As Angie said, put it out of your head when it matters too much. The highest version of you doesn’t care anyway, for that’s where trust, patience, love, and laughter exist. There isn’t much more, and it’s tough to ruffle your feathers when you’re on your ‘A’ game. If you’re feeling “ruffled”, acknowledge this is your ‘B’ game, and move on.
We all have those moments. It’s normal. The key is not to let them get to you, and to minimize the time we spend feeling less than awesome.
Today, I learned I need a bit more practice. An hour is way too long; 10 seconds, well, that’s cool. I would expect 10 seconds from time to time, and next time around, I plan to laugh at myself — silly me 🙂
I’m so grateful for you,
Originally published at drkareem.com on January 27, 2017.
Originally published at medium.com