Friendships are a two-way street. There must be a balance. Nurturing friendships help elevate our state of being because of soul connection. We should choose the friends who lift and enrich us and who have our best intentions at heart. Friends who make us feel happy instead of friendships which make us feel gloomy and sad or always on the attack. Friends who drag us down with their negativity then we have to keep our distance from or let go.
As time goes on, our circle of friends often change. We tend to gravitate to those who are “of like minds” and who we share similar life experiences with. When we go through a “dramatic” change in our lives, sometimes our paths divide. We begin to evolve in new ways, and the connection towards old friendships lessen.
We begin to realize our ideas and values have changed for the greater good because we are following our true path and some of us feel that we no longer are afraid of being on the outer edge of the circle.
When we become our true selves, we will attract people who we connect with on an authentic level, and the relationships will become real, much deeper, and more fulfilling. Being ourselves filters out superficial friendships because when we are true to who we are then naturally superficial friendships will become of lesser value, and our pathways will divide. These friendships are for the most part a waste of time and energy because we are engaging in no-nonsense garbage, which does not elevate the soul.
Understanding one another brings out a spark of openness. We must look for this spark, and once we find this spark, then our friendships will become much more joyful and authentic.
Louise Suzanne Boyd, M.Div