“Free yourself from the opinions of others.” with Tracee Dunblazier and Dr. Marina Kostina

Free yourself from the opinions of others. One of best things you can do to embrace every day with passion? Let go of other people’s opinions. Certainly, it’s easier said than done, so how do you do it? Ultimately, all the information that comes to us about us from outside sources has a connection to […]

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Free yourself from the opinions of others. One of best things you can do to embrace every day with passion? Let go of other people’s opinions. Certainly, it’s easier said than done, so how do you do it? Ultimately, all the information that comes to us about us from outside sources has a connection to us about our own thoughts, feelings, or experiences in life. Other people’s opinions are reflections of our inner-most beliefs or fears about ourselves, and we certainly only value them when we must deal with them face-to-face.

I had the pleasure of interviewing Tracee Dunblazier, GC-C, a Los Angeles based spiritual empath, shaman, and national award-winning author of The Demon Slayer’s Handbook Series and Rainbow Warrior Activation Deck. As a multi-sensitive, Tracee’s blend of intuitive information combined with different modalities has been the opportunity for thousands of people to achieve deep healing and create the success and peace they seek in their daily lives. Tracee specializes in relationship dynamics, transition strategy, in-addition-to past and current-life trauma resolution.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you to this specific career path?

Of course! I appreciate the opportunity to tell my story. I was born an empath and ultra-sensitive child who experienced demonic attack regularly. During the day I was a high-functioning, accomplished, and articulate student, but at night I suffered deep spiritual trauma and continual nightmares. A fact I shared with no one until my early twenties.

After a decade of self-revelatory focus and study, I moved to Los Angeles where I worked in marketing. A colleague, at the time, found out I was intuitive and hired me to do readings for special events where I worked in this capacity for about six months until the job I had went away. The response I’d had in those months of readings had shown me something very powerful about this new opportunity, the chance to help others work through some of the most intense experiences of their lives. From that point on, I decided to dedicate all my time to helping myself and others heal from spiritual trauma.

What does it mean for you to live “on purpose”? Can you explain? How can one achieve that?

Living on purpose means doing what you mean and meaning what you do — being present to everything you engage in your life. It means if you’re needing to reconcile any portion of your past — you do it with all the focus, joy, and energy that you have right now. When all your energy is available in-the-moment, you are effective and accomplish your goals.

The first thing to understand to become present is the five primary levels of focus we have; spiritual, mental, emotional, etheric, and physical. Spiritual focus is the unseen world. Mental focus is all the thoughts and ideals you carry. Emotional focus is becoming aware of your feelings, past and present. The etheric body is a layer of energy vibrating outside your physical body, it’s the energy that holds your physical habits in place and what causes the internal struggle you may experience when you begin to change them. Finally, your personal awareness of how your physical body works and how it communicates its needs to you. Understanding yourself on each of these levels allows for presence in everything you do.

Every minute you put towards knowing and accepting yourself more deeply, not only helps you act deliberately in your life but can give permission to others to do the same.

Do you have an example or story in your own life of how your pain helped to guide you to finding your life’s purpose?

It’s been my experience, not only working with my own trauma but having been witness to the lives of many others, that our life’s purpose is the confluence of many layers of personal events and skills that over time allow us to realize who we are — our purpose is the thread that connects all of them.

The first time I understood I had shamanic abilities was about the age of ten. My father was gravely ill and I’m not sure if my parents knew, but if they did they hadn’t said a thing. One night I was sitting on my sister’s bed and there happened a moment where I knew my father was going to die.

A flash of light in my mind’s eye with the knowing my father was sick and in his final days. I burst into tears and cried for a few hours. It was about two years from that time that my father was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and died approximately two months later.

Although I was born psychic, empathic, and had conscious other-worldly experiences every day, the premonition of my father’s death was the first time I recognized my ability to perceive and understand the many spiritual realms and what it took to navigate them safely. It was the only time I cried for the loss of my father. From that point on I cried for myself.

The United States is currently rated at #18 in the World Happiness Report. Can you share a few reasons why you think the ranking is so low?

True happiness comes from being secure enough in yourself and your life to offer love, kindness and compassion to others. The heart-expanding essence of all those emotions create the opportunity for an individual to have more than what they need in order to give some away — keeping the flow of energy circulating in their life.

Happiness is illusive to many here in the United States because of a fundamental American belief in and focus on our personal rights, needs and desires. Of course, we all have the right of freedom and all it entails, but for some, this translates to a deeply seeded selfishness and entitlement to control others that is difficult to overcome. When we are focused on our needs or desires, we are equally focused on all we don’t have — but all we want.

In this gap between needing, wanting, and having is a deep emotional divide where pain, grief, and anger (among others) thrive. Their purpose is to communicate higher-minded ideas to the conscious mind about ways to manifest those needs, wants, and desires. This is a powerful part of the spiritual process of self-realization for everyone, so the key is to find ways to give to others and embrace a perspective of happiness in the painfulness of illumination and growth. Happiness can be found everywhere.

How have you used your success to bring goodness to the world?

I see my success as the bravery to address and heal the deep spiritual and emotional trauma I’ve carried for many life-times from a spiritual holistic perspective. Everything I do professionally — counseling clients, writing books, and creating spiritual tools — are meant to support individuals on the path of their own spiritual healing and integration.

It is common for spiritual maladies to be misunderstood as mental illness, so my life’s work has been to add another dimension of understanding to how human beings’ function in the spiritual realms and how they are connected to everything we perceive and do, ultimately helping to transcend the illusion and stigma of mental health.

What are your 6 strategies to help you face your day with exuberance, “Joie De Vivre” and a “ravenous thirst for life”? Can you please give a story or example for each?

Face and challenge those things you fear about yourself and life — first.

Nothing is an energy stealer or happiness killer more than the habit of avoidance. The truth is the more you know the better able you are to think clearly, process your emotion and make positive decisions that allow you to lock on to the flow of beauty that is yours to claim every day.

There are a lot of things you cannot have control of in this life. What you can have is the confidence, commitment, spiritual and self-awareness to decide what you will receive from the world around you. This is a powerful spiritual concept that offers joy, safety, and the opportunity to cultivate happiness.

Feeling safe in an uncertain world happens when you connect to the larger construct around you — your God, the Universe, or the compassion that connects all sentient beings. To reveal your personal truth, first to yourself then to others, gives you power and freedom from which the experience of happiness can be chosen.

Spend time daily, exploring who you are without judgement.

When we lack awareness about ourselves it is natural to look at others through judgement — we naturally critique those things in others we like or dislike about ourselves. The more we know about us, the more we can find acceptance in others as they are.

You can look anywhere in the news today to see a story of judgement, bigotry, or racism. Millions of people trying their best to feel safe and protected by seeking to control the lives of those with whom they disagree or lack understanding. Of course, it’s always easier to see the folly of this pattern when someone else is doing it or focusing it on you.

Spending 10–15 minutes a day to reflect on those things that inspire anger, frustration, disappointment as well as joy, entitlement, and compassion is the first step to understanding your personal needs on a more deeply empowered level, allowing you to shift up from any perceived lack you may experience.

Give yourself permission to grieve the release of what no longer serves you.

At the heart of any transition is grief — everything must be grieved. No matter if you liked it, loved it, or hated it, grief allows for the emotional, mental, and physical transition of replacing one energy with another.

Many years ago, I had this car — it was a fine ride. As it was getting on in years, I felt safer having a newer vehicle. I still had a $150-a-month payment, but the harder I tried to find a buyer for it, I couldn’t get anyone to purchase it for what I owed. Finally, I decided to keep it and purchase the new one, hoping that it was just a matter of timing. Flash forward two years later and I’m still paying for both vehicles.

It occurred to me that I’d spent all this money on paying off the loan and was in the same position. So, I found and accepted a buyer. On pick-up day, as they drove away with the vehicle — I doubled-over in tears.

As I cried, a whole world of emotion opened up to me. I realized that it wasn’t the car I was sad about losing, it was recognizing all I had accomplished while in its ownership, that came to mind.

It was the first car I’d bought completely on my own with no help, in any way, from anyone. It was paid for with the money from the job it took so long to find. And, I’d traded in the vehicle that was my home for the first six months I lived in Los Angeles. As I stood there becoming smaller and smaller in its rear-view mirror, it was the first sign I was safe in this new city I lived.

As that phenomenal world was moving out of view and I was deposited back to my reality, I was just a girl on her knees crying in the parking lot of the apartment complex where she lived. Things are always much more layered than they seem.

Free yourself from the opinions of others.

One of best things you can do to embrace every day with passion? Let go of other people’s opinions. Certainly, it’s easier said than done, so how do you do it?

Ultimately, all the information that comes to us about us from outside sources has a connection to us about our own thoughts, feelings, or experiences in life. Other people’s opinions are reflections of our inner-most beliefs or fears about ourselves, and we certainly only value them when we must deal with them face-to-face.

Some of us, however, spend our lives making every decision because of what others say or think. The Truth is, what others think gives us an opportunity to reflect on and decide who we will become and a deeper understanding of where we are.

Your goal then, is to take these observations from outside sources with curiosity and a grain of salt. Allow them to teach you something authentic about yourself.

A great exercise to do weekly is to take an inventory and list all the feedback you’ve received in your environment this week. How has it made you feel and what is your relationship to its source? Sit with this information for a day and then go over it all to evaluate how it connects to you and what, if anything, you’d like to embrace or change from the information.

Do one thing of service for another — every day.

One of the most powerful things I’ve done for myself over the years, whether I’ve been in a happy place or struggling through the darkness, is to do one thing to be of service for another. It’s easy to be impassioned for life when things are feeling good, but what can you do when they aren’t?

It’s natural to struggle to control the details of your life when times are tough, but spiritually speaking, that usually doesn’t work. Trying to control your environment or others in stressful times often causes more stress. It’s the way we attempt to control ourselves but end up creating a lot of drama in the process.

Drama is the buzz word we use to describe what appears to the superficial eye as another’s irrational behavior. What I like to do is substitute the word trauma every time I use the word drama. Our spiritual wounds are the most deeply buried and often remain hidden from view even to the ones who carry them. A dose of compassion can go a long way. It can be as simple as speaking well of someone, saying a prayer, holding the door, to offering them your time and resources.

One morning at a local coffee shop as I sat waiting for my coffee, a guy walked in and he seemed so sad. It wasn’t just the 5:30 a.m. blues, I could tell he was burdened by something more. I noticed he was wearing a uniform from a pest exterminating company, I could see the company patch on his uniform but couldn’t see his name. I stepped towards him and made a remark about how early it was, to which he turned just the amount I needed to see his name, and shrugged a half-smile.

In that moment I decided I wanted to do something nice for him and hopefully, completely unexpected. A few hours later, I tracked him down and found his home office where he’d be arriving later that afternoon. I called the local florist and had flowers delivered by the time he’d arrive back to work. That act of joy kept me going for days.

Doing good deeds for others doesn’t necessarily need to be as altruistic as we think but possibly a way of staying engaged in life and taking the focus off ourselves for a while — giving what you have to others creates a bridge to new energy for everyone. We all need to feel as if the world we live in, supports us.

If you can’t commit to something fully, leave it for another time.

Staying present in the moment is another way to say commitment. Taking all your passion, focus, and force to use in the moment for what you’re engaged in, creates efficiency and allows for success. We gain confidence from our daily experiences — from everything we complete.

You know what doesn’t matter at all? How big the goal is… Nope, it doesn’t matter. Our spiritual and emotional memory retains that we accomplished what we set out to do, supporting our self-esteem and confidence.

Let’s say you want to start a meditation practice? Start small, three minutes a day (or every other day, or once a month…) What is valuable is that you do what you say you will.

Every time you complete a task your thoughts and actions become more powerful and begin to fill with confidence. The bonus is the meditation — every time you sit quietly for three minutes your mind, body, and spirit align. The more often all the levels of your energy are in alignment, the more at ease, confident, and joyful you feel. The perfect set-up for approaching anything in life with fervor.

So, the next time you set a goal, be critically honest with yourself. Remember, you can set a new goal every minute of every day, but you can’t get back all that time you spent feeling bad about yourself for not completing a mission because it was too big for your present set of circumstances.

But The alchemy of a miracle is many small often hidden successes one doesn’t notice until the miracle is upon you.

Do you have any favorite books, podcasts, or resources that most inspired you to live with a thirst for life?

Return of the Bird Tribes by Ken Carey

The MindBody Code: How to Change the Beliefs that Limit Your Health, Longevity, and Success by Mario Martinez PsyD, Dr. Christiane Northrup

Too Real Talk Radio- WVLS


Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote” that relates to having a Joie De Vivre? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?

“Unhappiness is rooted in unskillful responses to our world: Grasping when things are pleasant, aversion when they are unpleasant, and delusion and confusion when they are neutral.”

Jack Kornfield,

After the Ecstasy, The Laundry: How the Heart Grows Wise on the Spiritual Path

This quote has been a powerful guidepost for me over the years. A way to simplify and appropriate all the emotion I felt constantly from sources known and unknown. It also defines my philosophy that happiness is chosen and expressed, not gifted. We all can learn and practice the skill of choosing happiness as a response to our lives and not the result of it.

Are you working on any exciting new projects now? How do you think that will help people?

I am working on the third volume in my book series: The Demon Slayer’s Handbook (Vol. One- Master Your Inner World: Embrace Your Power with Joy, Vol. Two- Heal Your Soul History: Activate the True Power of Your Shadow)

The third volume: Conquer Your Karmic Relationships: How Opening Your Heart Will Heal Your Soul, is focused on defining and understanding karmic relationships.

The connection to others, the environment, and ourselves — our life’s blood. Everything we do relates to one of those affinities. Sometimes they begin with awesome love, attraction, and curiosity — but what do you do when intense mis-understanding, trauma, fear, or confusion dominates them?

Often, it is the impact of a spiritual dynamic at play in your relationship that may have been developed over time and of which you may have no conscious awareness, but from the extreme attachment that you experience in the relationship.

This book will show you how to recognize your own spiritual attachments and take you through the process of understanding how they came to be — giving you solid instruction on how you can resolve and completely heal those karmic relationships. Freeing you from the anxiety, grief, and frustration they cause.

You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

#forgiveyourselfday #forgiveyourself #forgive #iforgivemyself

I am dedicating and promoting a day of self-forgiveness, beginning January 22nd, 2019.

On a deep spiritual level our humanity seeks to take responsibility for all our experiences on every level. From everything we’ve done to everything that has been done to us — plus all of it in between.

Of course, this isn’t necessarily a conscious awareness we have but no wonder so many of us suffer from anxiety and depression. Emotions such as shame, disappointment, humiliation, and self-pity are a few of the feelings triggered when your spirit is communicating to your heart and mind that you can make positive changes to the subject-at-hand. Change begins with forgiveness.

Thank you so much for joining us!

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