Four Easy Ways to Be a Mother to Yourself

What does motherhood mean to you? How do you feel about receiving a mother’s love? Do you feel you had the love you needed as a child? Do you feel loved in this moment? Or is there part of you that is anxious, angry, forlorn, still hungrily seeking love – or maybe feels that love […]

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What does motherhood mean to you?

How do you feel about receiving a mother’s love?

Do you feel you had the love you needed as a child? Do you feel loved in this moment? Or is there part of you that is anxious, angry, forlorn, still hungrily seeking love – or maybe feels that love does not exist at all?

Whatever your relationship with your mother may be, this is a beautiful time to remember that you are always loved.

So in this article, I would like to explore the ways you can connect with the ever-present, eternal love that is the very fabric of this universe, and to love your inner child.

It begins with opening to what is, here and now.

It is only when we learn to let go, open and meet life as it is that we begin to accept ourselves as we are. With that openness, we can reach the tender place within our own heart that cradles the wounded child within.

We begin to touch a well of infinite love, the perfect, unconditional motherly love that the planet and the universe as a whole – gives us in each moment. The Earth, as a living being, loves and sustains us. And she is loved unconditionally herself and exists within a larger mother, the creative force of the universe of which we all are a part.

As we tap into self-love, we open to the love from the planet and the universe that is reflected in all beings. When we align with that powerful, yet profoundly compassionate force of nature, healing happens.

It takes that unconditionally loving presence for us to ultimately feel the love, healing and freedom we need.

The wounded child within is as fragile and powerful as a frightened doe in a wild forest. So as you move towards wholeness, do so with tremendous gentleness, the kind of care, attention and affection that a mother would have for her infant.

We are all children in the arms of the divine. If we can remember more often to give ourselves that kindness, compassion and love, our lives will unfold with greater ease and less resistance, and our world will be a sweeter place.

We all fall. We all have wounds. Be for yourself a mother that gently picks you up, washes off the scrapes on your knees, shares encouraging words and sends you on your way.

The universal mother is always with you. She will never let you down. Invite her into your life today and give thanks for the abundance of love that is within and all around.

We are, after all, so very blessed to be alive. That in itself is an expression of the universal mother’s love for you.


1) Find a quiet place and give yourself permission to feel.

Like an unconditionally loving mother welcoming you with open arms, fully accept all your joys and wounds without reserve. Meet whatever arises in you, to the best of your ability, without judgment.

Ask yourself sincerely and with open-heartedness, “How do you feel? How come? What can I do to better love and support you?”

Listen and receive the information with warmth and gratitude. Breathe it in.

Take time to do this every day and notice how much more energy, freedom and joy naturally arises.

2) Take a box of wax crayons and some paper and find a quiet, uninterrupted place.

Let yourself scribble, doodle, do whatever you want without judging. Have fun letting your inner child play.

If you choose, and only if you choose, you may wish to put away the doodles to look at another day.

If you do decide to look at the drawings, do so without judgment or evaluation. Just notice what is there, the colours, the shapes, the mood, the expression.

How do the images make you feel? What is being communicated in them?

Quietly see if any thoughts, emotions or images come to mind. Breathe in and welcome any information that arises.

3) Get a blank piece of paper and pencil and find a quiet place to go within.

Pick up the pencil in your non-dominant hand, that is, the one you do not usually use to write. Then ask your inner child if it has anything to say.

Write without editing, even if the text is scribbly and hard to read. Allow that child to have a voice.

Breathe deeply and embrace whatever arises, as a loving mother would. Welcome the voice of your inner child into your heart.

4) Find a quiet and relaxed place, either sitting on a chair or comfortably lying down.

Inhale, breathe in and feel you receive all the love that already exists right now, everywhere.

Feel yourself receiving love into your lungs, into your heart, into your body, into your being.

Exhale, and let go into that love, feeling that you are letting go into a very present, physical embrace.

So inhale love, nourishment, support. Exhale, and relax into the love.

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