Self-love is one of the greatest methods of self-improvement. Loving yourself has healing properties changing you from the inside out. Part of loving yourself is forgiving yourself. Forgiveness activates the healing properties in your pursuit of self-love. The message of love and forgiveness is accomplished with the simple Hawaiian healing process known as Ho’oponopono.
Ho’oponopono, is based on an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. Psychologist Dr. Len cured his patients using Ho’oponopono. He healed himself through a study of his patient’s disorders which allowed him to heal them. As he improved, so did his patients. The change began deep within himself as he repeated the mantra, “I am sorry: I love you.” He believes you are totally responsible for your life and everything in your life. You are responsible for the experiences you create and also how you react to the experiences you do not create. Everything you do not like in the world is up to you to heal. Your world is a projection of what is inside of you. Therefore, the problem is not out in the world; it is within you, so in order to change the world, you have to change yourself.
This philosophy is difficult to explain or understand, much less to actually live. Blame is so much easier than taking total responsibility for how you perceive the world. Basically, Ho’oponopono is all about loving yourself. Forgiveness helps you heal. Loving and forgiving yourself improves your life. Simply stated, loving yourself is the best way to improve yourself, and improving yourself improves the world. Live in a new world of your own creation.
The following process is Dr. Joe Vitale’s version of Dr. Len’s practice of Ho’oponopono. The healing properties of love and forgiveness are found in the following mantra:
Please forgive me;
I love you.
This principle focuses on taking total responsibility for everything that happens to you. Practicing Ho’oponopono allows you to bring the vibration of pure forgiveness into any situation. Ho’oponopono works from the inside to create a change in the outer world that you perceive. Repeating the mantra clears out subconsciously accepted beliefs, thoughts and memories. Although these lie dormant, they still hold you back. The mantras rewire your subconscious so you can return to a state of love.
When you want to improve any part of your life, first look inside yourself. Take full responsibility for everything you see in the world and heal with love. When an opportunity for healing presents itself, look within to where the hurt resides. Identify the source of the pain, and with strong emotion, repeat the mantra.
Another process for practicing forgiveness is writing a specific forgiveness affirmation. For starters, you can choose from these basic affirmations:
forgive myself for hurting others
forgive others for hurting me
forgive myself for letting others hurt me
forgive others for letting me hurt them
forgive myself for accepting food when I want love
forgive myself for pretending to be right when I want love
You can replace the word others with a specific name. The more you practice forgiveness affirmations the more consciously aware you become of issues needing resolved and requiring forgiveness.
Another forgiveness exercise is to recognize and acknowledge aloud to yourself that an unresolved grudge or hurt has entered into your mind. Hold onto that thought; acknowledge that it brings you heartache or makes you feel angry. Then say, “I forgive myself for feeling _____________about ________.” Then say aloud, “Thank you for the experience that helps me in my personal growth.”
The best gift to give yourself is permission to feel safe in your own skin, to feel loved. The gift of love and forgiveness means feeling you are enough. You cannot change your past, but you can take responsibility and be accountable for your actions, to make restitution and strive to eliminate behaviors you may regret. Practice loving yourself while acknowledging your mistakes. Your plan of forgiveness must include working through natural feelings of regret and turning your focus on personal development. Develop feelings of self-worth and self-compassion while being kind and encouraging to yourself.