Relationships often come with challenges, but they should not drain energy nor increase stress. The negative partnerships can decrease mental stability and cause health problems. These issues can spill over into the work environment and affect relations with friends or family members. If you spot the following behavior patterns in your relationship, it might be time to make changes.
If you have to deal with a rollercoaster of lows and highs, it makes it difficult to adjust to a healthy balance. Relationships come with good and bad times, but toxic people have extreme swings from morosity to elation. The resulting uncertainty makes it difficult for humans to adjust. Studies have shown these spikes stress hormone levels in the person who has to deal with these situations.
Always remember, being in a healthy strong relationship means that you feel comfortable and secure yourself. You can live your life with the same authenticity. Sharing your emotions and thoughts is accepted, and which is not imposed on anybody or forced to descend, which makes you feel uncomfortable.
You find yourself unable to enjoy good moments with that person. Mas Sajady says, “because every day brings a new challenge, it seems like they are always catching up about you and their effort to control your behavior is an effort to control your happiness too.”
In addition, they focus on negativity to keep you in the same position as they are themselves: sad and unhappy – they will never accept it.
Toxic people often belittle others with subtle insults. When you call out this type of behavior, the offending party will usually complain about your lack of humor or make a similarly hurtful comment. Jokes are part of a healthy relationship, but they make you feel good. Toxic comments create negative feelings, including anger and insignificance.
Making Bad Decisions
While relationships require concessions when making big decisions, both partners should enjoy the freedom to have social interactions with other people. If you continually feel concerned when making simple choices because they might upset your significant other, it’s a warning sign. You need to be careful when your partner thinks he can make decisions for both of you.
Toxic people often like to isolate their partners from seeing family members and friends by discouraging social interaction. Separating their companions from loved ones gives abusers more power because they don’t want ideas from people outside the relationship. Since dealing with toxic issues can lead to exhaustion, it’s even more alarming when you don’t want to mingle because of it.
Gaslighting maneuvers mainly consist of three strategies: diversion, contradiction and denial. Diversion involves changing your thoughts by saying you’re imagining things or your ideas are crazy. A toxic partner uses contradiction when you recall events in which he reacted negatively. He does this by questioning your memory. Denial includes forgetfulness about things that happened, including promises and mistreatment.
When a partner uses these negative behaviors, the goal is to make the other person feel dependent and unsure of mental clarity. These patterns might take a while to develop and usually exacerbate over time. When you recognize the symptoms of a toxic relationship, ask for help and move on to healthier circumstances. Consciously evaluate what you decide to take in as entertainment or information and decide if it’s something that you actually need in your life.
Shifting your mindset from negative to positive can have a dramatic impact on your well-being. Staying positive triggers optimism in your mind and spirit, and can also help you achieve your goals. Spend effort to cultivate positive thinking, and watch your life change for the better.
Mas Sajady, The founder of Exponential Intelligence® and Medihealing®, is an inspiring icon who is redefining success and spirituality. With the wisdom that is profoundly transformative and superhuman abilities gained from two near-death experiences, Mas helps us find happiness and fulfillment by turning mundane human endeavors into significant success.
Sajady started working on clients professionally in November of 2011. Within less than a year, he had worked on over a thousand clients solely by word of mouth. His success rate brought frequent speaking engagements worldwide, during which Mas has been able to help countless individuals from over 100 countries transform their health, finances, relationships and spirituality with rapid, tangible and documented results.
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