Finding Your ‘Cause for this Pause’

The worldwide ‘pause’ that Covid-19 has forced upon us has provided a lot of reflective time and might have us taking a look at ‘What’s Next.'

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Cause of the Pause

You don’t learn to walk by following rules. You learn by doing, and by falling over.

Richard Branson

The worldwide ‘pause’ that Covid-19 has forced upon us has allowed me to have a lot of reflective time. I kept saying, “I am so amazed at how little I’ve accomplished with so much more time.” And then, I realized I have been very busy reflecting and taking a look at ‘What’s Next’ as a lot of you might have been, too.

I picked up my book, Gutsy Women Win and read the following excerpt. It helped me ask myself some questions that have given me guidance on what’s next for me. I hope it does the same for you.

“Right here, right now, I encourage you to begin whatever you want to begin without being 100 percent qualified. Write all your self-doubts on one piece of paper—or two or three—and tear it up or burn it immediately. Feel the gulp and do it anyway. Get gutsy and get going.

If you are 100 percent qualified and experienced and have no need to step into the investment piece (an investment you make in you for your what’s next?), this is not a bigger game for you. It is quite simply the same old game.

You need to ask yourself these questions:

  • What do I need to start doing?
    For one of my bigger games, (creating a) women’s conference, I had to start learning how to fundraise and how to ask large organizations for $ 10,000 at a time. I needed to start talking about my game and asking for funding. I also find that many women simply need to start making time for themselves.
  • What do I need to stop doing?
    Many people find that when they define the game they decide to play next, they need to stop doing what is not working for them. This may be letting go of some volunteer work, pulling out of certain relationships that are no longer serving them, or even leaving their current work situation for the sake of their game. Remember that for everything you are saying “yes” to, you are saying “no” to something else.
  • What do I need to learn?
    A coaching client of mine decided to start taking business courses so she could acquire enough knowledge to start her own business; she knew she needed to leave her corporate job where she’d hit the proverbial glass ceiling. Another client had to learn presentation skills after she was promoted into a position that required her to present to the executives of her company and to key clients.
  • What assumptions and beliefs do I need to change?
    One of the major beliefs I had to change was that “I can do it by myself, I don’t need help.” Changing that one belief alone has changed my life and let me find other people who want to help and who have the skills and strengths I don’t. I now believe asking for help is a strength and not a weakness. Besides that, I find people are waiting to be asked. They are waiting for an invitation to play. They may share the same vision or a vision similar to mine, but they don’t have any idea of where to begin to make their vision a reality.

Let me know if you’ve landed on your ‘What’s Next.’ I’m very, very close.

Written by Pat Obuchowski

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