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How To Find Everything You Want, Inside Yourself

We have all been there. Finding ourselves wrapped up in friendships, relationships, or even flirtations that don’t feel right.

I’m talking about those relationships we have with people that leave us feeling unfulfilled, sad, or even used in some way. It’s strange, these relationships we get ourselves into. They can be so compelling on some level and yet so troubling.

Let’s do a gut check. If it doesn’t feel right then it probably isn’t. In fact, let me just say this, it’s NOT right to feel unfulfilled, sad or used, in any relationship.

So then what is it that compels us to continue these fruitless and often hurtful pursuits?

Oftentimes, it boils down to us not loving ourselves enough to realize we’re wasting our love and attention on others when we would be better served focusing that love on ourselves.

Sadly, it’s easy for us to get ourselves wrapped up in all the wrong relationships, of any kind, because we are caught up in our weaknesses. Low self esteem, fear, loneliness and even lust can drive us like moths to the flame of bad relationships.

If you’re feeling like your time and energy is being sucked by vampires then it is time to evaluate your relationships.

Check your gut again. Are these soul connections? REAL soul connections that fill you with love, warmth and support? Does this person make your heart happy?

If not, it’s time to move on no matter how hard it may seem. It will be especially challenging if those relationships feed your need for connection.

This is a shout out of love to all of you out there. We have all found ourselves in these relationships, so don’t beat yourself up for it or even doubt your worth a minute longer.

These relationships have probably already made you feel bad enough so don’t let yourself pile on with a negative inner dialogue of hurt, guilt, or shame.

If those feelings come up, acknowledge them and shake them off. Now is the time to make a break for it.

Let the love you know is in your heart give you the strength to break those ties.

You’re worth it.

Being alone and unconnected in the short term is better than being sad and disappointed any longer.

Know that you are worth every bit of love and friendship that you are willing to give to others, so give those things to yourself.

When you do, you won’t have to waste your time ever again. You’ll feel liberated to move forward peacefully on your own, and you may be surprised who shows up when you’re not looking.

Original content from JeliGavric.com

Photo by Tim Mossholder on Unsplash

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