I am deeply touched and inspired by an article published by Arianna Huffington on Thrive Global. “Happy Father’s Day after Divorce.”
My husband and I decided to conduct an experiment and have some time and space apart. We share three beautiful children together, and we work perfectly as parents, but something was missing. Perhaps, we got caught up in the everyday routine and the fast pace of today’s life that we forgot how to be a couple. After several attempts to get closer we came to a crossroads: could stay together feeling lonely and sad or we could honor the truth of our relationship and separate to see how we feel, we chose the latter. It’s been a month, so everything is still fresh and uncertain.
Today, I took my children to sing Happy Father’s Day to his place in the morning, and he invited me to take part in his plans to celebrate. I was hesitant. I was scared that it could send the wrong message or things could get confusing, so I came home instead. It was then when I opened my emails, and at the top, there it was: an article by Arianna Huffington about celebrating the father of their daughters after divorce. Synchronicity. I read it and called my (best) friend, my partner, and told him I had changed my mind and that I’ll be joining them after all. If it’s going to send a message to my children, it will certainly be a positive one. That regardless of whatever is going on right now as a couple between him and me, it has nothing to do with me celebrating the father of my children and being a team, a true partnership. After all, we are conducting an experiment, and as scientists, we have to try different things and make mistakes, adjust and adapt until we can find not the right way, but our own path.
Thank you, Arianna, for sharing your story and please know that your words were able to change someone’s perception. Ah, the magic of words, synchronicity, and connection.
Love and Light.