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How I Finally Learnt To Feel ‘Good Enough’ (And How You Can Too)

Ever felt not good enough? This is for you...

“What’s the most important message you have to share with the women entrepreneurs?” – one of my friends recently asked me.

“That feeling ‘not good enough’ is a big fat lie.

If women could truly get that, they could stop robbing themselves of success and happiness they deserve.”

My friend nodded curiously and then she challenged me: “Why don’t you create a viral-worthy video around this message and share it with the world!” – to which I enthusiastically agreed.

So I got to work. I decided to share a very personal story, a defining moment that gave me a whole new perspective on the ‘not good enough’ business.

My videographer came to my office, and we started filming. And he asked an interesting question: “Do you want to film a line by line, until perfect? Or share your story all in one take?”

Upon reflection, I replied: “Since it’s a story about “ever felt not good enough?”, it would be kind of ironic to aim for perfection. I want to share from the heart. We’ll do it all in one take.”

And we did.

A few days later I got the final video.

As I watched it, I couldn’t help but notice MANY occasions when my tongue slipped, or I didn’t pronounce specific words correctly. Yep, my “message I want to share with the world” is full of grammar mistakes.

And that was enough to awaken my ego.

“What were you thinking, woman? You want THIS to go viral? You want women around the world listening to THIS? … And anyway, even if it does go viral, can you imagine the amount of hate you’re going to get because of your “English”? Can it be even called English??”

I gently told my mind to shut it. I committed to releasing the video by a certain date and even told a good few people about it.

And then one of my business buddies excitedly wrote me: “My video is ready! I’m sharing it on Monday evening!”

So I watched her video.

Bloody hell. Amazing setup. Also an amazing message. Amazing editing. And amazing energy. What an amazing woman!

And guess what?! Her English is PERFECT too.

And that was enough, as embarrassing as it is to admit, to tear me up

The ‘not good enough’ trap

“What was I thinking???? Why couldn’t I record a line by line like every normal person? What was I even thinking to do something like this??

IT’S NOT GOOD ENOUGH!!! It’s not worthy!!!! Hmmm….

This showed up again for me, even though I already built a beautiful, multiple six-figure business that changes many lives.

Even though I am raising three human beings (what a job in itself!).

Even though I created the life for my family and myself that I am truly proud of.

This, even though I am receiving messages from my clients sharing their phenomenal successes and quantum leaps every day.

And still, my mind wants to convince me that I am not good enough

Because I dare to put myself out there.

And isn’t it often the case?

Isn’t it the case with you too?

Isn’t it that, every time you are ready to stretch yourself, your mind starts playing tricks on you? Trying to slow you down? To stop you? To keep you safe? Therefore to keep you small?

Of course. 

Our mind can be our biggest fan one minute, and biggest enemy the next.

And yes, it’s a fantastic negotiator.

And here is one thing i have learned – negotiating with our minds is not worthy. it can only get us as far…

Getting out of our mind, and do our thing ANYWAY, is the only way to create extraordinary growth in our businesses, and create miracles in our lives.

So that’s what I have done – because I was releasing that video ANYWAY.

Only a few weeks after? Over 1000 people shared the video with their friends. Going by this, there are many women who need to hear, to acknowledge that they ARE good enough, no matter what our mind tries to tell us at times. Do you agree?

And I would like to ask you for one more favour:

Go and seek situations that will cause little (or big) fights between your mind and truth.

Do those things where your mind will try and convince you that you’re not good enough; you’re not ready; you’re not worthy. And then tell your mind to shut it, and do your thing anyway.

Again and again.

I promise you.

Your life and business will transform so quickly you’ll be pinching yourself.

It happened to me. And it happens to every woman who refuses to buy into lies her mind tries to feed her with.

Originally published at www.lenkalutonska.com

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