Emotional Cheating Is Cheating…

Physical touch is always a no -- what about a flirty connection?

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A good majority of us have been there. Our partners decide for some reason or another, the temptation of someone else for a night (or two or three or four or…) is too much to resist. We’re left heartbroken and crying into a tub of ice cream (or two or three or four or…).

Sure, lust can be too much to handle for some people, but what happens when it’s not just physical? What happens when the emotion takes over? You should know what to look for.

Emotional cheating usually starts out as a friendship. By no means should you start concerning yourself with your S.O.’s BFFs, but if you notice it getting a little flirty, maybe it’s time to worry.

Emotional cheating is different from “regular” cheating in that there’s no sexual contact. Intimate secrets can be shared, sexual attraction can be expressed, romantic emotion can be exchanged, but most importantly, it is hidden from the other partner.

The Dangers of Emotional Affairs

Emotional cheating can stem from a lot of things. The cheater in question could be unhappy in their relationship. They could be in denial or feel monogamy isn’t right for them. They might not want to hurt their kids with a divorce and decide carrying on a romantic connection with another person will fulfill them.

There’s no issue in having a best friend of the opposite gender, but when one is sharing their intimacy with their friend instead of with their partner, it’s emotional cheating.

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