Eight Signs You Are Pushing Your Partner Away

If you have a hard time being vulnerable, you might be driving your partner away from you.

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Being in a loving relationship is one of the most rewarding things we can do. Sharing your life with a significant other is magical and being in love makes life so much better. Being in a healthy relationship is great for both our mind and bodies.

However, our relationships can suffer a lot when communication between partners is poor. Things can get tough and before you know it, you’re pushing your partner away instead of talking to them.

Are you pushing away from your loved one? Are you worried about your feelings for them? Here are eight signs that show you’re pushing away from your partner.

1. Giving Your Partner the Silent Treatment

Giving your partner the silent treatment when you’re mad at them is a problem. If you’ve been doing this then you’re definitely pushing them away from you.

When you’re mad or frustrated at your partner, you may not want to speak to them, but this doesn’t solve anything, and it harms the relationship. Once everyone has cooled down, sit down and talk to them, don’t argue.

If you don’t begin communicating, your partner will grow weary and they could leave you.

2. You Think They Should Know What You Want

Relationships stumble when partners assume the other knows what they want. If you don’t communicate your needs and desires for the relationship, how will they know?

Whether it’s emotional, or physical wants and needs, communicate it them to your partner. Nobody is a mind reader, and you can’t expect them to already know. If you get angry with them for not knowing what you want, it will grow resentment and push them away.

3. The Bedroom is Dead

If things in the bedroom have gone stagnant lately, it’s a sign the relationship is suffering. Partners should want to please each other physically. If you’re uninterested in pleasing your partner, that’s a problem.

It doesn’t have to be the sex, either. When you push away, even the small acts of physical intimacy, your partner will feel rejected. If you’re stressed out, talk about it. Put your cards on the table and address the issue. If you can’t fix the issue, they may not be the right one for you.

4. You Put the Blame on Them

If you’ve been having a tough time at work, or in your personal life, don’t put it all on your partner.

This will only cause arguments and more negativity in the relationship. Instead, address the issue, accept what happened, and see how you can work as a team. Remember, it’s both of you against the problem, not each other.

5. You Don’t Support Them

If you aren’t supporting your significant other in their endeavors or struggles, you’re being a bad partner.

If they’ve failed at something recently, or are going through a rough time, you should support them. Do you make excuses to yourself about ‘not having time’ for support? If so, you’re pushing them far away from you and it will damage the relationship.

6. You’re Obsessed with Them

This point is different from the rest, but it can be equally as damaging. If you’re always texting and calling your partner, that’s bad. In the early stages of the relationship, it can be cute and endearing, but it’s not sustainable in the long-term and it gets annoying fast.

If you feel the need to check up on them all the time, they will want to distance themselves from you. Tone it down and let them get on with their day. When they want to talk to you, they will.

7. You Stop Taking Care of Yourself

If you stop taking care of yourself, your partner will notice. It can be easy to let yourself go in a long-term relationship, but it’s important to look good for your partner.

If you aren’t trying to improve your professional or emotional wellbeing, that’s a big turn off. People find those with ambition, positivity, and drive, attractive. If yours has gone, your partner may lose attraction for you. If you work on getting it back, it can help turn your whole relationship around.

8. You Hold Them to Crazy High Standards

Nobody is perfect. If you expect your partner to meet some crazy high standards, you’re pushing them away. If you’re observing their every little move and criticizing it, that’s a problem.

If you’re making your partner feel criticized and inadequate, the relationship won’t last. You don’t even need to be voicing your opinions, body language can say it all. If you sneer when they do something or roll your eyes at them, they’ll notice.

You should be working on making your partner feel loved and appreciated. Try to go easy on them and take them off a pedestal. You’ll both be happier for it.

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