Recently I discovered how ‘hitting rock bottom’ has become a new procrastination technique. People want to make changes in their life, but can’t be bothered to start because they’re too comfortable in their current lifestyle. So someone actually mentioned, “Maybe I need to hit rock bottom to change something about my life…”
Look at Arianna Huffington. It took her collapsing from exhaustion to wake up and realize her life had to change. JK Rowling is another example of a writer whose life imploded before she focused on the most important work of her life. 1000 Awesome Things was a blog Neil Pasricha began after losing a friend to suicide and having his wife sit him down and tell him their relationship is not working.
Now millennials are thinking, “This hitting rock bottom thing is cool. I’m waiting for my moment.”
Maybe it’s motivated by JK Rowling’s Harvard speech about how rock bottom became the solid foundation on which she rebuilt her life, stripping away all the inessentials, etc…
But let’s deconstruct it; what is it about hitting rock bottom that’s making people want to go there before steering their lives in a different direction?
- Not wanting the responsibility of making the change yourself. Here’s the thing I figured out even from my own life. Often, we’re so scared of making a slight change to our current routine because we’re afraid of failure or overwhelm or even success (what if we burn out?)…so we don’t want to make a change unless something falls from the sky or pulls the carpet from under us and overhauls our life, and we’re in a position of, “Now what? Maybe I should try my hand at that side business thing.”
That thinking is quite errant for a couple of obvious reasons;
Just because you’re not taking control over your life doesn’t mean you’re not in control of your life. Nobody’s going to live your life for you, and you only get one shot, whether you take it or not.
The stakes are higher when that carpet is pulled from under you, so you won’t have the resources (financial/emotional/cognitive) to truly experiment, and you’ll still be stuck.
If you think you don’t have time just log how many hours you spend complaining and watching TV.
- Lack of options. When you’ve hit rock bottom, the only way to go is up. So some people think, oh well, I can’t go up without hitting rock bottom first. And everything is fine. Just fine.
Your idea might be, if it’s not broken why fix it? To be honest with you, it doesn’t matter what you tell your parents/family…deep down inside each and every one of you knows when you’re not fine. You can feel it in your heart every morning when you’re facing the idea of getting up and going to work. It doesn’t matter what your CV says or how your life appears. When you’re not fine — and it’s broken — you do know.
- Laziness. Waiting to hit rock bottom is simply a procrastination technique, and it comes out of pure laziness.
You really don’t need to hit rock bottom to start diverting your life to one filled with a certain level of fulfillment. All it takes is to switch off the TV, arm yourself with google, and start doing something.
Don’t be a phoenix and wait to hit rock bottom before rising again. Be an eagle and start soaring today! What’s the simplest first step you can take today to make a difference in your life? Hit me up on twitter @ahechoes.
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Originally published at medium.com