Let’s start with the now. The future will be great as long as you live this moment with intention. Creating your destiny is not always an end in and of itself. A lot of people say it’s about the journey. Winston Churchill once said, “It is a mistake to look too far ahead. Only one link of the chain of destiny can be handled at a time.” We can connect the dots of our lives by looking back and seeing the picture forming. It’s through the rearview mirror that we build faith because we have made it this far. You can now look forward again with more hope for the coming future knowing you have more strength and persistence than you realized with what you have come through.
A little about me: I was eighteen years old when I joined the Army, and I thought this is it. I will become an officer in the military. I was 23 when I got out of the Army and back from Iraq. I just knew I needed to be out of the Army and a massage therapist because I was indeed a healer. I became a very tired healer. I then worked at a computer shop at 24 and in an IT department at a corporate office as an onsite technician at 26. I then thought I needed to know computers in and out. I thought I’ll get a computer science degree but then hated it. I became a personal trainer because I love transformations. I loved that part, but not the sales numbers meetings and cleaning gym equipment. Insert some administrative jobs here and there and a bachelor’s degree in Business as well as some time in coaching school and here I am.
Where you have come from is crucial. Give it a good nod of appreciation and then wave goodbye. The past is gone and not as imperative as where you’re at right now and where you are planning on going. This journey is what it’s all about. This moment. We enjoy living in this moment. We laugh and cry in this very moment. Ensure you are doing your best to make it awesome right here, right now.
It is the lessons we are taught along the way that make the journey so essential. The key is to be in touch with what life is showing you. One of the big takeaways here is to be so steeped in the reality of what’s going on around you so that you can see it on a deeper level. Don’t miss the education you are getting from life. In those lessons lies your destiny.
What are you learning today? What is challenging your perceptions or opening your eyes a little wider, and why? Live life by design rather than by default and figure out what it is that you want. True fulfillment is carrying the message of your essence into the world.
To manifest your destiny, one must make a decision and then take daily action toward it. What is the one thing you can do today that would start this process? What do you need to act upon that will turn your dreams into a reality? (Is this blog post asking you too many damn questions? Well, we’re just getting warmed up.)
Your calling is crucial to creating your destiny.
So then, what is a calling?
A calling is your purpose here. Your calling may or may not be what you get paid to do. Your particular talents, aptitudes, and abilities are awaiting an all-encompassing passion that may or may not turn out to be your occupation.
Here are some questions to lead you along the path of finding your calling:
- What is it that drives you?
- What makes your heart come alive and beat a little faster?
- What do you desire?
- What comes easily to you?
- What do others say you’re good at doing?
- Do you enjoy helping others? (Happier people do things that make other people happy. Trust me, it works.)
Putting pen to paper here is optimal. If you have resistance to doing that, then ask yourself why. Becoming your own best advocate is a must for living a life that you want, not some life that others may want for you.
Find your why.
“It is one of life’s greatest joys to wake up in the morning… every morning, with a clear sense of why that day matters, why every day matters.” – Simon Sinek
Simon Sinek is famous for asking why people do the things they do. For this article, let’s assume everyone knows their vocation or at least what they like to do in their pastime. People know what it is that they do, but do they understand why they do it?
What is your “Why”?
Why do you do the things you do?
What’s your motivation behind the choices you make?
This kind of work of finding you in all of this is simple, but not easy. Answering these questions will lead you in your desired direction. Self-examination and contemplation are both excellent. Now, go and do that which you have an inner knowing you were meant to do.
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