Have you experienced any of these characteristics with a coworker or a boss? The need to be “right” all the timeQuick to take credit for everything but be the first to assign blame on othersMinimize people and their emotionsPit employees against each otherDesire to be appreciated and attended to all the timeShow no consideration for […]
Have you experienced any of these characteristics with a coworker or a boss?
The need to be “right” all the time
Quick to take credit for everything but be the first
to assign blame on others
Minimize people and their emotions
Pit employees against each other
Desire to be appreciated and attended to all the time
Show no consideration for others or display empathy or
Inconsistent behavior – you may be their best
colleague/employee one minute and they may be threatening to fire you the next.
Insistence on compliance with their demands regardless
of how unreasonable they might be
Complete disregard of ethics, standards and morals,
like they are above the law.
If any or all these behaviors seem familiar to you, then run
as far as you can from this individual, especially if they are your boss! Since
that may not always be an option, below are some strategies that will help you
deal with narcissists.
look good. Praise and acknowledgement make them tick.
the attention they need, within reason. They feel threatened when you do not
comply with their own self worth and aggrandization.
Do not try
to reason or argue with them, it will just aggravate them. Let them talk while
pet peeves and avoid those. Similarly, learn what is important to them and
cater to that.
wall – you cannot take anything these individuals say personally. They can be
manipulative and abusive, damaging your self-esteem. Disengage with them.
drivers – do not expect them to motivate you and do not let them take you down.
Keep the fire burning by focusing on what’s important for you.
proactive. While this is a good management mantra all the time, learn the
triggers to narcissistic behaviors and control their occurrence as much as you
your emotional intelligence and learn tactics to cope with the behaviors
micromanage or make decisions. They want their way and will get it. If you don’t
agree with it voice your concerns but don’t expect to have the final say.
Narcissists may be very successful entrepreneurs or
professionals owing to their ability to turn on the charm and risk-taking
skills, but they make ineffective leaders. Learning how to cope with narcissists in the
workplace can be a great lesson in managing up or around!
Mitali Paul has over 18 years’ experience in the healthcare industry. She was CEO of Sugar Land Rehab Hospital, a brand new inpatient rehabilitation facility that opened in Fall 2018. Previously, as Vice President with Wiederhold & Associates, Mitali oversaw business development and strategic partnerships and supported clients as a career transition specialist and management coach, coaching over 100 executives. In addition, Mitali is Adjunct Faculty at Texas Woman’s University for the Graduate Healthcare Administration program and an Advisor and Executive Coach for the TMC Innovation Institute.
Mitali’s prior experience includes serving as the Chief Executive Officer of Select Specialty Hospital; and various leadership positions with Harris Health System, The University of Texas MD Anderson Cancer Center and The Houston Methodist in Houston, Texas. She has managed budgets up to $50M and 250 employees and been involved with several capital construction projects.
Mitali graduated from the University of Houston, ClearLake with a Masters in Healthcare and Business Administration. Additionally, she has a Masters in Hospital Administration from the Tata Institute of Social Sciences in Mumbai, India.
A Fellow of the American College of Healthcare Executives, Mitali has been actively involved in the professional community. She serves as Chair of the Healthcare Administration Alumni Steering Committee for the University of Houston, Clearlake. She was appointed to serve on the Library Board by the Pearland City Council in 2017.
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