Curing a heart break is the personal hunt for our own Andrei Chikatilo

During Soviet Russia, the case of Chikatilo handled rather unusually and uniquely. In quest of catching the serial killer, the police department solved more than 1,000 unrelated murders. So what does this incident has anything to do anything with my heart break?

Curing a heart break is probably one of the most infuriating and agonizing phase of an ended relationship for the person who truly loved. However, after the hours of crying and asking ourselves the infamous yet poisonous question of why, comes the days of deafining soltitude. Where the energy to cry our eyes out lacks yet the pain remains and yet to be lessen.

I choose to call these days the hunt.

My personal quest of getting over my very own Andrei Chikatilo and giving justice to my heart by putting him behind the bars of the past. A catch-22 situation, leaving us in dire straits because now we are forced to burry the face in our pasts which we believed to wake up to it in our futures. As painful as this phase may be, I am here to offer an alternative perspective for break-ups; a chance for an individual renaissance.

Everyone accepts every end leads to a new beginning. The art is to demolish the old way crumbled and to have the courage to build up a novel path.

In other words, you can make your heartbreak a chance to put yourself in the cacoon. Where you would take some me-time to regain the beautiful energy lost and take a pause while focusing on every aspect of yourself you wish to alter, develop or improve. You can create the time to solve 1,000 unrelated knots in yourself. Understand what parts of you doesn’t serve your well-being anymore, which habits or behaviours you wish to change in you for a better future with yourself and get in your cacoon where you will transform yourself into a stronger butterfly because only by creating a new future for ourselves, we can leave the one we had in mind to where it belongs; the past.

We have to focus on everything we have, every case file open, every insecurity we left neglected and work on them, not on the person. Being able to get over a heartbreak is solving a crime. You have to examine which parts of you are broken and work on them; which boundaries were pushed, left worn-out and cure them. The cherry on top is while focusing on these, one night you’ll go to bed and instead of thinking about your Chikatilo you’ll find yourself thinking about you.

Curing a heart is a journey you have to do for yourself while focusing solely on yourself. Your heart is the whole department and it will encounter with many killers with many lessons, the moment we turn to look inside us and examine what the department has to offer and work on them, not only our killer on the loose will be burried eight feet under our past but a thousand unrelated problems will be solved as well.

Here to everyone who once loved not wisely, but too well : We owe it to our hearts to cure them with our care and time not by focusing on the one that slaughtered our hearts away.

See my next post for how to ease a broken heart and reasons why these tips will help you.
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