Coping with A Partner Having Trust Issues

How to handle your partner who has trust issues with you

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Partner Having Trust Issues

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord, and turn away from evil. It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones (Proverbs 3:5-8)

When your trust is broken in a relationship, it leads to a myriad of emotions. Anger, confusion, fear and of course heartbreak. Those feelings are completely human, and thus, very real. When one goes through a betrayal and gets his heart broken, it takes him some time in being able to get into a relationship and invest his emotions and time into someone making him extremely cautious about trusting in relationships.

But one cannot lead his life by isolating himself and removing himself from all of his close relationships. This way, you are actually closing the door to great joy and fullness of life God intends for you. Trust happens to be a non-negotiable component of a Christian marriage or relationship. But sometimes life brings you face-to-face with such unfortunate incidents that you seem to lose everything. After going through a traumatic breakup or infidelity which is a great sin, people then begin to suffer from trust issues. It becomes very difficult for them to get into a healthy, loving relationship that could lead to marriage. It is very difficult to carry on a relationship with someone with trust issues, and most importantly, it is equally difficult for that person too. In that scenario, it is only God that could heal your heart and soul so that you may trust and love again.

Although, situations may differ everyone does go through some rough spots in their relationship. This world is imperfect and full of bad things. People sin every day and each of us sins in some form or the other. We, as humans, are sinful people and, thus, are capable of breaking trust. Sometimes, one is unable to even trust their own actions, thoughts, and decisions. We break others’ hearts, betray them and break their trust. Now and then, a close friend is not worth trusting even. It is through Him and Him only, that a broken soul can be mended. Christ loves us and His love for us is so much so that even in such an imperfect world, he lived perfectly for us. HE is well aware of all of our sins and also listens when we plea for help.

The society we live in nowadays is deep in all kind of wrongs. Relationships are carried out for fun or just to have a good time. Love does not exist the way it did before. Spouses are involved in affairs and go behind their partner’s backs. Trust seemed to have become almost non-existent. Quite often, rather than talking it out with each other and settling matters by having a heart-to-heart conversation, people resort to sneaky acts which instead of repairing the relationship, destroy it altogether.

The way Jesus loved us. His love was so complete and true that he died
and resurrected so those who had repented of their sins, could lead peaceful
lives and enter heaven. When He can forgive us after committing sins and keep
loving us, why can’t we? If your partner is in the process of mending themselves,
let them take their time and help them in every way you can. Trust Him and rest
assured of His guidance and love in every difficulty.

It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in man. (Psalm 118:8)

There are ways you could help your partner with trust issues. By not talking to them only but actually understanding them and imagining oneself in their shoes. People go through a very difficult time when they get their trust broken and it takes them some time to get over it. For some, the period is really long. They act insecure, may ask a lot of questions and have this need to know everything about your day which includes who you meet and talk to as well. It does get overwhelming sometimes but it is just their way of trying to know everything so that they cannot be fooled again as they were in the past. In such instances, quite often one just cannot deal with it. But those who share real love, they grow and get better together. They work hard their relationship and a person who truly loves you would give you everything to make you trust again.

What you can do is that be patient and provide reassurance that you are trustworthy. Sometimes it becomes a little too much to bear, but with kind and loving support, you could break the wall built around your partner. Remember, that you should support them fully that is all you can do and in due time, you will see the changes.

Now one may not be too comfortable with this approach, but if you are really willing to go the extra mile and help your partner recover their ability to rely on someone, this could be a solution that could work. Let them keep a healthy track of you and your activities with Xnspy spouse tracking app. Knowing where you are – seeing that little dot that is you on the map, adds truth to the fact when you called that you will be staying late at work, you actually are. They could stop worrying about you lying to them or cheating on them. Letting them in on to all details of your life for some time could really do wonders. Both the parties can discuss how long should this be carried out. Monitoring apps are also recommended for those partners who have had an infidel incident in the past and are trying to move past it and renew their relationship based on truth and trust. 

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