When you ask for constructive criticism, often, you don’t really want it. You may say, say, “Yes, please give me your feedback, good and bad, as I’d love to hear it.”
But if you hear even the slightest bit of criticism, your eyebrows furrow, you go into defensive mode, and you’re ready to respond with a sharp-tongued comment.
Some people are better at this than others, and I’ve improved a lot over the years, but candidly, I can still feel my shoulders tighten up a bit when I get feedback not to my full liking. Remember, I’m talking about constructive criticism.
If someone is downright rude and criticizing you, then you need to use your skills of just not listening or walking away.
When you ask for feedback, remember you’re doing so for positive reasons. You want to personally improve or the project you’re showing to be better represented.
So if the news is not to your liking, stop, take a breath, and just listen. Don’t exhibit any non-verbal communication.
After the person finishes, think about some good qualifying questions you can ask. Maybe the person can provide greater details that will make it easier for you to accept the feedback. You also need to take into account the source of the constructive criticism.
Frankly, it is the job of your manager or other higher-level supervisor to give you feedback. If they don’t, then they’re really doing a disservice to you and the employer.
Constructive criticisms are suggestions to help you improve. We all need to view them as positive interactions with someone who wants to assist us to get to a better place. If we view them in a defensive way, then we are only hurting ourselves.
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Excerpted from Mastering the Basics: Simple Lessons for Achieving Success in Business by Dean Karrel. Published 2019 by Post Hill Press. Used with permission.
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