The person who empowers you to communicate well with confidence may surprise you. With these skills, you’ll move people to action.
While at Toastmasters, I was between two men who were at opposite ends for speaking confidence.
Jose didn’t speak English well and lacked public speaking experience. Rob was a well-spoken sales trainer for relators.
When invited to give a spontaneous speech, you could almost feel Jose’s fear. His head lowered. He avoided eye contact. Giving an excuse for avoiding the opportunity.
Rob volunteered for the role of improv contest speaker. He welcomed any feedback for improving his speech. To help out Jose, Rob jumped up to take his place.
The gap between their skills and confidence widened.
Several months later, Karin became our new club president. She wasn’t proficient at speaking English or at public speaking.
How was she going to lead elite members who were just below professional speaking level?
One of Karin’s first changes was for every member to have equal opportunity giving spontaneous speeches. Club members already adapted feedback for a speaker’s confidence so their experience would be positive.
Karin then met with all members who struggled with confidence. Got to know them. Found out strengths.
Through her connection, Karin encouraged the members to share what she discovered during a spontaneous speech.
Jose shared he was a medical doctor. He also did cutting edge research for a national drug company. That’s why he was recruited to live and work in Canada.
Switching the role of Jose to YOU.
What are you talented at that others don’t know? Their impression of you would change once they knew.
Who is your Karin – inspiring you to share these talents?
Think of someone in your life who’s compassionate and cooperative. Who understands your struggles with confidence and communicating well. Because he or she has been in your shoes, struggles and improved. Or, helped others improve communication while elevating confidence. Perhaps a mentor, trusted coach, considerate peer, respected colleague or close friend?
You’re two steps away from knowing how to communicate your talent, well.
Step One: Requesting feedback
· Approach a compassionate person for feedback.
· Let him or her know why you respect their feedback.
· Share an inspiring reason.
· Specify your estimated time request.
“Hey, I’d like feedback on my communication. As a way to share… (mention your talent).
You’re observant and considerate.
Would you have (5/10) minutes to share feedback?”
Step Two: Getting feedback
· Choose a way you’d prefer to communicate your inspiring reason with others, i.e. social media post, email, story, conversation, blog.
· Request one communication strength and one suggestion for improvement.
How well you communicate moves people to action.
Confident people like Rob thrive in this era. They get attention. Make connections. Overcome objections. Handle rejection. Move people to take action.
People deserve to hear from you!
Rewarded by what you share. They want what you have to give.
Getting feedback grows your communication awareness. Enhancing your ability to communicate well. You’re two steps away from improving, thanks to a compassionate soul.
As your communication talent rises, so does your confidence.
Empowering you to achieve anything you want, in business.