College isn’t going anywhere!

Not letting your college student withdraw for fear of them never returning to college is an irrational fear.

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This is not an opinion, but rather a fact. The oldest university in the U.S. claims to be founded in 1636.  That is ancient if you ask me. If you are afraid that if your young adult leaves college that they’ll never return, that does not need to be a valid fear.  To be direct, college will still be there when they’re ready to return.

Not having a traditional college experience between the ages of 18-22, is a common thing for a lot of people.  If your young adult is not thriving in college for several reasons, it’s totally okay for them to stay away.  Now, it’s not okay for them to leave and retreat to your basement to spend the rest of their days.  That sounds unfulfilling for all parties involved.  If they need to take a break, let them.  It will all work out.

If they leave and never return, it’s not for a lack of trying.  It would be because your young adult decided they didn’t need a college degree for their career path.  Maybe they fall in love with welding and get a certification.  They’ll be making more in six months in that career path than if they had spent another three years studying at a university.

If they ever choose to return, they totally can.  Want to hear why?  Because college is still there when they decide to apply.  Now it may not be the same exact institution, studying alongside the same cohort, but in the end what does that matter?  We want our young people to feel less pressured into a path they aren’t ready.  If they need to hit pause from studying in college to unplug, unwind, and get more in touch with their purpose, passion, and needs, then we ought to encourage to do just that. 

College isn’t going anywhere.  If your young adult needs to leave, they need to leave.  If they return, great!  If they don’t, then they’ll go back when they’re ready.  That’s it.  If you are worried they won’t return to college, you’re focusing on the wrong piece of the situation altogether!

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