Depending on the definition of what each society establishes as success and failure, as human species, we are unable to avoid the constant pressure of meeting expectations of our age, gender, social standing, membership of a grouping. Although, there are more that we share rather than differ, it is good to have in mind that our journeys are very individual.
Less comparison brings more harmony, an unprecedented calm confidence and a firm belief that no amount of pressure will ever push you down.
Whether a failed exam, interview or relationship, it seems to our human mind that everything has ended and it is the worst that can happen. Failing, losing, being behind are feelings that I got familiar with at an early age. There was always something that blocked my move towards the goals and plans I made.
And then I mastered a skill. I learnt to fail gracefully, to fail and to celebrate, to fail and to step back sometimes.
Being comfortable with something that everyone thinks they can use against you is perhaps one of the most fundamental and prime basis of human resilience and healthy mind. Regardless of how much I wanted one thing or another, I learnt to walk away from people and places not meant for me.
You may have worked hard, tried best but the result does not bring satisfaction or joy. It is rather worth working towards building an immunity against loss or failure because even if you are on top of the highest mountain, disappointments are inevitable part of our lives: they touch everyone, even the privileged ones. The journey is as enjoyable as arriving to a destination. The end of relationship on a positive note is as important as the beginning of it. Failing is worth celebrating as much as success. Building a fierce emotional muscle deserves the same focus as working out.
Where I am from, failure is fashionable. While success is something that we don’t care that much on what everyone else is so crazy about. I celebrate both failure and success with equal amount of humility, grace and gratitude. Do you?