“We need to have a talk on the subject of what’s yours and what’s mine.”
― Stieg Larsson.
I had never given much about boundaries until I was required to sit on a panel for a television show to contribute on the topic. Thinking about the topic left me in disarray, not because I lacked content, but because I came face to face with a reality I had been avoiding for a long time. This time, there was no easy way out but to face the truth.
It is possible that when the term boundaries only brings a picture of a tangible thing; a line of separation of sorts. This is correct, however there is more than a boundary being physical: emotional boundaries do exist too.
So, what is a boundary you ask, and its importance? A boundary is a limit you put for yourself that governs how you relate with family, friends, workmates, life partners and even strangers. A boundary defines acceptable behavior that you can condone. It is important to you (mostly) because allows for respect, development of self-esteem and promotes good relations with those around you. Physical boundaries are easy to identify, unlike emotional boundaries with are subtler. Physical boundaries almost seem automatic; emotional boundaries need more effort in defining them. You have to make an informed decision to define and stipulate your boundaries, there is no other way.
Learn To Differentiate Between Acquaintanceship And Friendship; Caring And Clingy. I Think We Waste Too Much Time And Energy Assuming One Is The Other. The Separation Is Very Thin, But It Still Exists. Let’s Not Get It Twisted.
~ One Of A Kind.
In their book ‘ From Stressed to Centered: A Practical Guide to a Healthier and Happier You‘ authors Dana Gionta and Dan Guerra discuss how you can manage stress levels in order to live a more peaceful, fulfilling life. They give advice on how to set personal and professional boundaries; and why this is important. Here are the guidelines they propose to help set boundaries.
You and I have one life to live, to some it is long yet to others really short, how do want to live it? Do you want to take control of it or are you okay with other people leading it for you? Look within and see what you have to do to attain the freedom to live the life you desire to live.
It Is Your Life, Own It Fully Without Guilt, Apologies Or Permission; But With Passion, Purpose And Pride ~ Dr. Steve Orma (The Selfish Expert)