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Body Shaming: Why it Shouldn’t Bother You Anymore

Have you ever been body shamed in your lifetime? Sorry if you lie among the group of slender people. I may be intending to tell a tale.

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If there is one thing I’m still delightful of is my four years of campus life. You know…Lots of adventures during leisure.

But, every culture comes about with some blemishes. And my Campus life wasn’t an exception. Reacting to various body shaming situations wasn’t a bed of roses. Students were always giving scornful comments about my 225-pound body. Yuck! With my tender age and a little life experience, I couldn’t withstand the anger. I handled every situation with higher degrees of awkwardness.

Thankfully, recent situations have taught me body shaming words shouldn’t end in your heart. They too can carry the burden, right?

But Wait! How do you get rid of these antagonists?

All in all, let’s get into the “secret plan” now. Body shaming is near the defeat.

1. Never Take Their Words to Your Heart

As a matter of fact, when you take someone’s shaming words into your heart, you end up being too hurt and lose your senses. And because you shouldn’t bruise your reputation due to shaming conflict, you only let these words pass.

Moreover, expressed anger in the heat of the moment isn’t productive. The words will have already found their way into your heart and will bear the shamers fruitful results. Refer to our current subtopic.

2. It’s Not All About You

As many words come out of our mouths every moment, some might be scornful or rather be of value. But sometimes you tend not to know how they impact others.

You may be getting some cacophonous sounds in your mind by now. But you shouldn’t. Let me take you into reality.

When someone shouts, “Huge” or “Fat mama”, they may not be aware what they are doing is body shaming. Since those words are so prevalent in our society, you might not be the individual of the target, but rather their aim is creating some humor to the crowd.

3. It Won’t Be Your Daily Experience

And now here is the deal:

Not all body shaming situations are same and thus not all days will be of mockery either. You might come across a very cruel body shamer whose intentions are just the curiosity on how you’ll react. Later, you might come into contact with somebody who has no idea of what body shaming is. And you may end up sharing some good ideas on life experience.

Try to gauge and handle every situation in a unique way. Because it’s possible to encounter different kind of people and different kind of situations.

You can overcome it, only if you change the way you look at it.

4. Silence Is Your Powerful Weapon

Why should you remain calm when a mouthy body shamer ridicules you in an occasion?

And before you give your answer because it’s hard for many to adhere to this rule, refer to our main topic and you’ll be an outstanding victor.

Besides that, we previously said it shouldn’t get into your heart. And if by now you haven’t learned the body shamer’s intentions, kindly go back to the second sentence of subtopic No.3

So, to thrive on the wise’s side, always be silent.

Silence is golden, and this is the only weapon that can silence the body shamers too. They will make the judgments and later come for an apology as you seat and celebrate your wise decision. Make sure you invite me for a cup of coffee too, it will be worth celebrating.

Now we are at the end of our “plan” and those are the personal tactics for your victory on body shaming. When shaming becomes a bother to you, always keep our plan in mind for reference. Cheers!

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