For the longest time I’ve felt uncomfortable with the image I saw in the mirror, I always believed that the body I was given was slightly more inadequate than everyone else’s. It was always not thin enough, not feminine enough…, not perfect. All this of course is a pile of garbage because my body was literally made for me, there is no other body that I can claim as perfectly suited for me, and the same goes for all of you and your own bodies.
The truth is that my insecurities and body issues stemmed from the fact that I valued other peoples opinions way more than I needed to. Whenever someone had something to say about my physical appearance; hair, skin, weight etc. It stuck in my head even if it wasn’t a positive thing and I would dwell on the fact that people are aware of all of my flaws and loathe my imperfection.
Perfection is overrated, in a world of lip fillers and butt injections there’s never going to be limit on what more you can improve in your physical appearance. But instead of looking at that as a death sentence, take it as an ocean of possibilities. Makeup for example is a chance to create whatever you want out of your face for a day and still be able to return to that beautiful state you call home (bare face).
The thing about body positivity is that for you to even begin to approach it, you need to really understand the relationship that you have with your body and what exactly is the root of the hate towards it. Only then can you really appreciate what you have, nurture it and even be bold enough to expose/flaunt it to the rest of the world. I am no expert in the field but these are a couple of tips that I have to begin this journey into loving your body more:
These little tips are what I use whenever I feel insecure about my body, to return me to a mental state where I am proud of what I have and less worried about peoples opinions of it.
Again, its not going to be a one day thing, you might have to do this for months or years before you really get over the body shaming but its definitely worth it.
Originally published at www.wamaitha.com