The word success is synonymous with the business world, especially as a serial solo-preneur, which I am. It is a subject matter I often discuss on radio with all my showcased guests, many of whom are household names and who are instantaneously characterized by the world to be successful or even deemed to be a so-called, ‘overnight success.’ One hears the word success and we are oftentimes inclined to automatically associate it with other such words or images that conjures up in our mind and vocabulary such as wealth, fame, power and prestige. Although a very subjective term, and uniquely understood, interpreted, and contextually applied perhaps slightly or vastly differently on an individual basis, the majority of people, especially those in the personal development world, and even those who ARE perceivably the most successful – understand and appreciate the variance of meanings ascribed to SUCCESS.
I have been very candid and forthcoming via every platform afforded to me, to discuss in detail, my own definition of success and what it holds for me, personally. In a nutshell, I define success as continually choosing (it is a choice) to live a yummy life – one that is congruent in living an authentically purposeful life, which in essence, is me choosing to honour myself within my own journey. Everything I endeavour to do based on purpose, mission, passion, and clarity – derives out of my love for my children, and they always being my eternal, non-negotiable, number one priority. It is my responsibility as their mother, role-model, nurturer, and partial-provider (I am a single-parent) to ensure their needs (all of them) and future stability to remain consistently in-tact. Especially as parents, we are accountable to our children. A big component to that of course, is consistently adhering to the financial needs and expectations, which comes with being a financially responsible parent – a roof over their heads, food in the fridge, clothes on their bodies, and the list is ongoing in nature.
This is only one aspect of what they are deserving, worthy and entitled to receiving from me as their mother. We all have to pay the bills – make ends meet, and unfortunately, not all of us derive intrinsic joy or a feeling of deep meaningful purpose from what it is we do day-in and day-out to garner an income so as to uphold our financial responsibilities and commitments to our children (for those of us who are parents). It is exceptionally important to me as my children’s role model and primary caregiver, that they see Mummy loving and living in harmony with life. It is paramount to me that my children witness me emitting positive energies, and approaching each day with a healthy mindset as this is what sets the tone for all of my interactions and exchanges with both of them as well as with every other human being I energetically am in connection with either personally or professionally.
Yes, life is forever challenging. Yes, much is out of my universal control. Yes, the succession of increased deadlines and commitments ensues, particularly as someone who is massively driven to accomplish much in this lifetime, especially with respect to taking my Living Fearlessly with Lisa McDonald message and mission to the masses – it never gets easier – not in my world, however, I deem it to be a success in my own eyes, that my busyness, my tiredness, my hardships, my crazy off-the-hook life is birthed from a burning, and yearning desire for what sets my soul on fire, and is truly a labour of love. I love that my children are bearing witness to seeing hard work being congruent with fun, purpose, and meaning. I love that my children have a true grasp on concepts such as passions, mindset, self-empowerment, paying it forward, and being of service to others. I love that my children get to witness first hand what it means to live ones life on purpose and not begrudgingly or with anticipated angst or dread. I love that my children are not exposed to receiving a skewed or pessimistic view on work-ethic or confuse what it means to be a contributor vs. a contaminator in the professional realm knowing one day they too, will be part of the working culture. I derive a significant amount of relief and comfort from believing that as a result of my own example of how I haven chosen to live my own life, emit my own energies, expend my own time, that for whatever it is my children may one day endeavour to embark upon with the future of their own career aspirations and goals – that they too will choose to seek whatever it is they feel only a passion or a calling to do based upon knowing the importance to question their own ‘WHY.’ This to me speaks and spells, SUCCESS.
I have always been a a staunch believer that no matter how hard, monstrous or trying, the climb – when one remains fiercely committed to maintaining a winner attitude, is consistently and persistently willing to invest the time, energies, and effort to get to where they aspire to go – that with the proper focus, mentors, core and fundamental belief in oneself (by continually doing the inner/self work required) that ANYTHING is achievable. Too many people including myself, can attest to this as truth – there is no coincidence when one who synergistically operates in this flow of life, aligns with the same like-minded, purpose-driven folk, hones their craft every single day – then begins to see the results show up – of course they will – of course they do! This to me, IS SUCCESS! This to me, IS being SUCCESSFUL! Loving what you do and doing what you love based on one navigating and manuevering from a place of self-love and self-truth, IS SUCCESSFUL! Being in love with your own life, being consistently mindful of what it means to exercise daily gratitude by focusing on your blessings, your gifts, your strengths, your talents, your unique and individualized skill-sets, IS SUCCESSFUL!
I have also come to know first hand as a result of many life-lessons and experiences personally learned the hard way, that when you choose to dim your own light, squash your own intuitive voice, ignore or dismiss what you feel most compelled to do with your own life, no matter how seemingly successful we may appear to be – by having ultimately chosen to live someone else’s definition of what constitutes a successful life – even with that being inclusive of wealth, degrees, prestigious positions, and such – that is in my humble opinion, contrary to the true meaning and embodiment of how success should be defined. The barometre for success should always be measured by YOUR degree of personal joy, passion, congruency of self while being in alignment with ones self. You master that – you achieve that, you hone that – you my friend, will have hit the SUCCESS JACKPOT of life! When you choose to live your life on purpose and in the spirit of honouring yourself – the monies and everything else shows up – I truly believe that. Monies, accolades, accomplishments and anything else that materializes from a place of obligation, non-fulfillment, dread, anxiety, resentment is not the definition of success or what it means to be successful in my humble opinion. Life as we all know, is far too short and far too precious to be wasted on anything that insults or dishonours our souls and spirits. There is always a way to step up and to step into living a successful life however it is you choose to define that for yourself.
As always, my mission is to uplift you to fear less and to live more. To your success!