We’ve got to stop begging for blessings. Because the universe is intrinsically designed to give us what we need. So if we don’t have "it" maybe we’re not ready for it. Here are some of the questions I recently asked myself to evaluate my own “readiness” for the blessings I'm convinced I cannot live without.
Do I deserve it?
We're always demanding the universe bless us because we're in the mood to get blessed. But what have we done to deserve to harvest all these blessings? What are we really growing? What kind of seeds have we put into the figurative ground and how much have we watered them? I, being a self-proclaimed urban farmer, know exactly what the crop looks like when it's been abandoned. It's pathetic. Puny. Sometimes there's nothing to harvest. No effort equals zero results. So how is begging for blessings we didn't work for spiritually or in this realm any different? Why do we feel and act so entitled to good outcomes when we aren't even in a good place mentally? Negativity looms in our minds and yet we expect to be given more to complain about, more blessings to treat like burdens. No! It doesn't work like that. I'm not trying to summarize the law of attraction in one article but (to put it simply) you get what you give.
You create what you contemplate. It's not easy to understand at first because we think we can entertain negativity, walk around complaining about our current circumstances, and still magically manifest all the good things. False! The cake is going to taste like the ingredients you baked it with so if you are pouring in doubt, sifting in hatred, adding a dab of bitterness, and glazing it with jealousy why do you keep expecting to pull abundance and love and community out of the oven?
2. Do I need it?
Why is it so imperative that I get my way? Seriously? When is the last time going without a thing, a person, or an opportunity KILLED ME? I think we’re so used to be able to throw everything in an online shopping cart or swipe right on an image and have whatever we want or have access to whoever we want within minutes. But there’s no survival-based need attached to most of the blessings we're begging for. At the end of the day, I’m just a spoiled brat and I want to get my way because I usually get my way. Someone saying no to me (even if that someone is GOD) is a serious offense and hearing “no” as a response to anything I ask for makes me feel like fighting.
3. Do I understand it?
I’m realizing, after collecting so many years of wisdom, most of what I pray for isn’t even intended for me and I usually don’t even understand the weight of what I’m asking for. I never consider the care instructions or the maintenance costs of a thing, or a heart, for that matter. I want it because I want it. With no intention to put in the work to keep it.
4. Do I plan to make it sustainable?
Do I have the tools, the patience, the money and the faith to keep the blessings?
Why do we have the ugly habit of begging for more when we can’t manage or maintain or keep up with or love what we have? It could all be so simple. But we’re passionate and we mistake greed for ambition all the time. We treat people like possessions and we handle our possessions like trash to be used and discarded and replaced.
I’m getting in the habit of making a daily list of things that I’m grateful for and the more disciplined I get in the practice of gratitude, the less I beg for God to “give me” people who don’t want me because if they did, they’d be right here praying with me and I wouldn’t need magic spells to attract them. And I wouldn’t obsess over opportunities, call backs, or the awards I didn’t get because I would accept that someone else obviously needed the opportunity more than me.
I’m growing and I know you are too. We’re not perfect. Perfection isn’t even the goal. Gratitude is!